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age
16-17,
anonymous
writes:Someone who I love a lot is moving away, she doesn't know that I like her though. The thing is she is my old school teacher I want to make a move and would be following the law becuase I am 17 and by the time I say to her I will be 18. We are already good friends but I don't know how to tell her that I like her. (She doesn't have a BF!!) Could I do any of these:a) take her on a date and kiss her thinking it would be the only kiss I get from her (like in the movie what women want)b) tell her that I am confused and want to kiss her but not hurt her feelingsc) some other way which I haven't thought of yet but would like some suggestionsOh I still haven't had sex so a virgin and really would like it to be her so how would I get that into the equation obvisolly I won't force her but yeah...thanks everyone Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): Okay well,
The first thing is you will never know how she feels unless you make a move! Why spend your whole life wondering what would have happened, just do it. It's better to know than not to know in most cases. The first thing youd want to do is tell her how you feel and tell her you understand if she dosnt feel the same way(that may hurt you but atleast she will know you actually cared.) Maybe you should just make a move, when shes gone youll regret it if you never made a move trust me. Make the moment right dont rush into things, good luck really.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (31 May 2008):
 I was asking about the age difference to gage her maturity. I (being an American) aren't up to speed on the British educational system and was just trying to get some more of a read on that...
Never mind, the point is that you should go with "B" in a non-threatening way. As far as other options for "C", I was thinking a letter or email... I guess the big point is that you need to approach this in a way that gives her the option of bowing out gracefully than putting her on the spot with an overly aggressive approach -- do you understand?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell there is a 7 years age gap but that shouldn't matter, remeber age is only a number. But what is option C I haven't thought about it and need help with it
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (31 May 2008):
What's the age difference between you two? I am going to guess that your teacher is "of age" since you mentioned the legal issues.
Of your choices, "B" or "C" would be a better choice than "A". I think it is OK to express your feelings, but I don't think you should force a kiss out of the situation. Regarding the issue of a sexual encounter, I think you need to cover the attraction issue first and see if there's a chemical reaction between you first.
Best wishes!!
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