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writes:I have two roommates. One male and the other female. Im close with both but am closer with my roommate who is a girl as we hangout more. We are strictly friends though as I assume she has no romantic feelings for me. I don't have feelings for her either but do check her out sometimes. I know I am a pig, slob, and dirt bag yada yada...but i cant help it so back off. .And so we came back from an event at uni and spent about three hours in the house doing our own thing in our separate rooms. We live in a rather large town home and her room is on the other side of the house. I usually lock my door when i want privacy but forgot to on that day. I assumed she was sleeping or out of the house since i didn't hear any noise. My male roommate was at work and so i felt it was a perfect time to wrestle the one eyed trouser snake . As I reached the most focused point of slapping my willy around she walks in on me. She was like a deer caught in headlights and i pretty much froze in embarrassment as i was caught with my hand in the cookie jar. Before i could take a breath she runs to her room and slams her door. Since my pants were around my ankles i pretty much knocked everything in my room over and fell on the ground trying to shut my door. I laid on the ground hoping i would cease to exist.Its been two weeks and she has become a recluse in her room. The few times we see each other we avoid eye contact and haven’t said a word to each other. I have even resorted to checking to see if the coast is clear for her before coming out of my room like a fresh inmates first day hitting the prison yard. I need help on how to bring things back to normal. I don't know what to say to her since i cant pretend like it didn't happen, but i feel i have been humiliated enough and don't want to relive that day.I don't know why things have become so uncomfortable between us? Its not like i was an exhibitionist doing that outside my room. I get mad sometimes while in my room and have the urge to yell “yeah I like to play one man tug-o-war sometimes, its that such *#% big deal”! Just so they could hear and know my frustration. Do you think our friendship is over with after this? I'm assuming she thinks this is all I do in my room. Any advice would help.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 March 2016):
 If she walked IN on you without knocking, well.. then it's kind of an her for what she saw.
Yes, it's a little embarrassing for BOTH of you - but it's not like you doing anything horrible or illegal. YOU were masturbating. So what? Doubt there are many guys your age who doesn't do it and girls too.
There is NOTHING you can do to rewind time, so accept that it happened and let it go.
I walked in on my room-mate and her BF playing Naked Twister once ( and she hadn't warned me he would be visiting) AWKWARD! but all we did later on was laugh at it.
Don't try and FORCE any socializing with her but STOP sneaking around like you did something horrific. Act normal and give it a few weeks, someone else is bound to do something stupid and your little "cock-up" will be forgotten.
And in the future... lock the door when you feel like a wank.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (20 March 2016):
 Oh my Lord, thanks for your post it really did make me laugh, not your situation but your creative writing. bit late now but she should have knocked before barging in anyway so she needs to take the responsibility for her embarrassment on her self. I don't think you should feel the need to be doing or saying anything. It's your dick to do as you please behind closed doors. If you make a big deal out of it, then a big deal it will be. My advice would be to take owner ship of knowing that you have a healthy self serving sexual appetite and go about business as usual.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 March 2016):
 Gosh you do seem to have found all sorts of quaint terms for masturbation.
Was your the door to your room open or closed?
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reader, like I see it +, writes (19 March 2016):
 Something similar happened to me in college - I walked in on my roommate having sex with her boyfriend in our shared room. At that point in my life I'd never done anything more than kiss a boy, so it was eye-opening to say the least. I know how I felt about that incident at the time, so if I had to guess - she's feeling really, really embarrassed herself.If it's any consolation, it sounds like she walked into your private room without knocking, so what she saw is definitely her own "fault" and not yours. She probably doesn't know if or how to bring the subject up, hence the hiding out to avoid any awkward conversation about it. Honestly I would give her time to get over it and in the meantime act completely normal with her. Stop avoiding eye contact. Say hello and goodbye. Stop acting like you have anything to be ashamed of, because you don't. Now that I think about it, I actually have a couple of awkward walk-in stories besides the college one that I had pretty successfully forgotten... I live at work a few days a week, mixed company in communal living spaces. In seven years at my job I have been walked in on in the bathroom by a male co-worker (totally nude, about to get into the shower) and I have also walked in on a male co-worker sitting on the toilet. (I still work with these people.) The incidents took place in different bathrooms but both times I made sure we installed deadbolts afterwards :) I have to be honest, my M.O. for all the above has been an "Oops, sorry" at the time, followed by acting like absolutely nothing was wrong as none of the above incidents were an intentional breach of privacy. Sure it's a little awkward at first but you quickly get over it. Sex, nudity and bodily functions are all natural life occurrences and while it feels weird to have an unexpected audience during any of that, the fact that we all do these things is nothing to be ashamed of. Your roommate is young and maybe sexually inexperienced, and she may take a little longer to get past this because of that. I know things were weird between me and my college roommate for a bit. Just act normal/polite and don't press her to socialize or talk about it if she isn't comfortable doing that. Right now it may be all she can think about when she sees you, but sooner or later the shock and awkwardness will fade.I hope this helps. Good luck and best wishes :)
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