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anonymous
writes:Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 years, we had a 4 month break up and during that time alot of things changed, like having sex with other people. It hurt me alot because we were both our first. Now after going back out again for 3 months were fighting so badly. I cant forget the memory of her having sex with another guy. The reason it hurts alot is because when i had sex with the girl it was emotionless, but her she had emotions with the guy. I can't deal with the pain we've also been fighting over stupid things, we had bad communication. What hurts is she communicates truthfully and honest but isnt kind, her view of life and people is "if you cant handle life than too bad, you need to man up". I just don't understand what happened to her, she used to care and even wanted to be a psychologist and now she's so rude and mean, especially to me. We both love each other because just recently we cried to each other and the fear of losing each other again. I don't know what to do, do I continue our relationship or not?? I really need advice, I'm losing it and deep down I want to fix it but it feels close to impossible, I don't want it, but I feel like the only way is to let go..
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reader, Melanie89  +, writes (3 August 2011):
Hi there, i can see where your coming from in some aspects. However if you truely love this girl the way you say you do and she loves you back just as much, then you will do all you can to keep this relationship from falling apart. dont give up on what you two have, maybe you just need to find that spark again and relight the flame in your relationship, start going out for meals or clubbing, or booking yourselves a holiday away and if non that still doesnt work then yeah maybe it is time to call it a day, but dont do it unless u know for sure its really the end.
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