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*ristie-Peta
writes:hey there, i have a boyfriend and have been going out with him for a few months now. my mum and i arn't very close and i feel i have to live up to my older sisters reputation. how do i tell her that i have a boyfriend? im not very good at talking to her and she dusn't know the first thing about me. my other sister ran away with her boyfriend last year to melbourne. i want to tell my mum but am afraid. please help, my boyfriend is un-happy that his family knows (and loves me) and mine dusn't. i dont bring him home much cos im scared. please tell me how to deal with this. thanks, kristie-Peta xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (22 February 2007):
 I wouldn't spring this on her just yet, instead I would try and spend some quality time with her. Ask her if she wants a cup of tea or coffee and sit down with her and try and talk to her, not the fact that you have a boyfriend, just things in general. You both need to form a relationship again, try and get closer to her. Has she been through any problems in her life recently? Why don't you get along with her?
Once you've managed to get a bit closer to her then ask her about boys, how old was she when she had her first boyfriend etc. She'll probably love telling you about her dates.
Don't let your boyfriend put pressure on you to tell your mom before you feel your ready. Just because his family know doesn't mean you have to tell yours just yet. YOU know your mom better than him and you'll know when the time is right to tell her. If he continues to pressure you then ask him why he thinks it's so important. He should respect the fact that you and your mom aren't maybe as close as he and him mom are so tell him to calm down and stop going on about it, you'll tell her when you're ready.
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