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18-21,
*Jess*
writes:Ok, i hope this question makes sense because i have a tendency to ramble when my thoughts are muddled like this. Il try and keep it simple. Basically, i started my first serious relationship in june with a guy whos 19, everything was incredible, iv never met anyone who understood me the way he did and i really thought he was perfect for me. I was so happy. But on the first of september he moved away and that means we hardly see each other now. Hes also really busy with work and he never calls, literally NEVER. I know hes not a phone person, he didnt call before he moved away either, only short practical phone converstaions, but when he first moved i called a few times to try and make the distance a little easier but then we got the phone bill nad it was huge so i cant call anymore and he doesnt phone me. I figure if he wanted to he would. Anyway, thats not my point, i only get a few texts in the morning before work and a few texts late at night when he's finished. And its just so hard! I havent seen him for a month, he doesnt seem that desperate to see me, i dont feel like i have a boyfriend anymore. The most painful thing is that I know everything would still be perfect if he was still here. He still tells me he really loves me but i feel that if he did then he would want to see me as much as im desperate to see him. Hes coming back on the 13th til the 16th and helping his sister move out and he said he would "try and see me". My mum says that im too young to cope with this and she thinks i should end it, she said hes not making the effort necessary for a long-distance relationship to work. Part of me thinks its the right thing to do but i still love him :( if he was here everything would be perfect. I don't know what to do. I'm sad all the time, i just dont feel like myself anymore and i have no way to fix it. Please help me. My heart is breaking :(
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reader, poppycorn +, writes (15 October 2007):
you need to talk to him. tell him your finding it hard and need to know he loves you. tell him the truth tell him that your not sure whether you can carry on with the relationship because it's too hard. he should realize what he could loose and start making the effort.
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reader, rachy-baby-helps +, writes (8 October 2007):
 Well firstly, you are not too young, if you love someone that lives far away it will be hard to cope with.
Not all people are phone people, and he still texts you.
I think that you should really talk to him about all this, tell him your worries, also say if he loves you as much as he says he does then please could he phone you (start with twice a week then increase) he should understand how you are feeling.
If it worked well when he was near you then it should work just as well being apart.
Good Luck :-)
p.s I am currently in a 10 month relationship with a guy that lives in wales (about 200 miles away), he has lived there since i knew him, so i know how hard it is.
if you need to talk more, don't hesitate to ask
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (8 October 2007):
He's gone and not your bf anymore. Leave him alone and give another local guy a chance.
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