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My Mother has said if I don't gain weight I can't see my bf...this is so unfair! Help

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Question - (31 January 2006) 3 Answers - (Newest, 31 January 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

Ok this a very random question but i need help.

My mom and i keep getting into arguements about my weight. Im 20 years of age and i weigh about 107 - 108 pounds. My mom is nagging me about my weight and is constantly telling me that i need to gain weight our she is going to make sure that i go to some mental hospital. There is nothing wrong with me. I eat all the time but i can't gain weight.

I still live at home becuz i need to finish my business school before i transfer to a university downtown. And since i still live at home my mom holds my bf agaist. She said if i don't gain a pound a week she won't let me see my bf.

This is really putting stress on me and i have NEVER had to worry about my weight. I have always been happy with myself. But now that my mom is not going to let me see my bf unless i gain a pound a week im constantly thinking about my weight.

It's not fair of what my mother is doing to me. I only get to see my bf once or twice a week because he is attending a university downtown as well.

I don't know what to do am i feel like i want to cry constanly.

Can someone please give me advice.

*crys*

Thank you

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A female reader, llqueen +, writes (31 January 2006):

To tell if you have a weight problem, I really need to know what height you are. I am about 5'1.5" and I only weigh about 95-97 lbs. And, I am perfectly healthy. Ask your mom why she feels this way? Does she think you are doing something that is making you lose weight or does she think the stress of a boyfriend is making you not eat? If she doesn't have valid reason, than if you are happy with your body and are healthy, she can't make you gain weight. I wish I really had better advice. But, I know its hard when you live with your parents. You have to go by their rules. But, with something like this - I don't know what to do.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2006):

Sounds like your mother is trying to make you gain weight as she doesnt like your boyfriend, and is confident he will break up with you if you put on a few pounds. Your weight is none of her business (especially if you are over 18). If you are happy with it, then why should she be making a big deal out of it. This is your life, not hers. If you let her keep this up she will demolish your self confidence. Be strong and dont give in to her childish games. I mean, what sort of a person says you have to gain a pound a week in order to see your boyfriend? It's insane!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2006):

You should make and appointment with you doctor and bring your mother along and explain to your doc in front of your mother what is happening to you. Get your Doctors advice about your weight. That is the bottom line. Maybe your mother needs some counseling. You could be supportive and go with her, but go to the doctor first and formost.

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