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writes:I wanna ask what should u when your mum won't listen to u.She just won't listen!! Although she always says " u hav ypur freedom to do anything u want,I won't say a word" But whenever I had made a decision which she dislikes.....she started to use bad words to "advise" me...(bad words is in different language cz I m an asian)...I feel very sad and even cried.I have tried to speak to her but she just won't stop and listen to me. Please tell me what I can do to make my life easier.... Reply to this Question
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reader, Quiet.Kisses  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 The "You have your freedom line" is one of my moms favorite lines to use too. I've come to interpret it to mean that yes I may have my freedom however that freedom doesn't include anything that she doesn't like or something she would disaprove of. You could try compensating for this not by lying but by being selective in what you say, like not giving too much detail. The best answer is usually not a straight one, not lying just not the whole story either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Trying to get your mom to listen is the same as trying to change her personality. My mom was close to being like that when I was a teen. It was horribly frustrating. She only started listening after high school and post-sec.
Making your life easier at this moment in time is not feasible with your limited abilities and opportunities. Unfortunately, you can:
a) Wait it out, don't bother trying to make her listen and maneuver around the problems that come up.
b) Run away, live somewhere else which I don't recommend unless you have a very responsible relative or older friend.
c) Continue to duke it out verbally. This one doesn't work. It makes things a lot worst.
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