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writes:Hello dearcupids,I am 25 yr single lady. Currently unemployed.My mother spoiled my birthday for last two years. I don't know why she did this, she even didn't wished me on my birthday. I cried always due to Her continuous mean behaviour. When I asked her she replied 'why you think this would be most important day in everyone's lives?' Honestly I didn't get over bad birthday of last year. For last birthday she carried on the fight we had many days before. Now, the condition is, all my friends are away from me so that I don't have anyone else with whom I can spend my time. I am very scared and very very sure this year also on 7th december my mom will be mean to me. Plz help me so that I will be spend a good day this year atleast. Sad and lonelyTy Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2016): well happy birthday for the 7th.Why not start celebrating it now and make it a birthday week!Why not go shopping for something you'd like to have: a high tech camera or new clothes or something only you can appreciate.If mum has a jealous tongue then clothes could get you a shirty comment but the camera would be confusing for her and not much caustic could be said although a truly caustic tongue could imply it was for you to advertise yourself for sale on the net!Take no notice! Just enjoy taking pictures of wildlife, etc and put them up on a photo site for the world to approve of.Take a digital editing course and make them stupendous. You will be far too busy to worry about mum!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2016): Your mother sounds emotionally cruel to me. My own mother has ruined many events that should have been happy. She also gives me a 'cold' attitude if I've enjoyed something she didn't approve of. It's a horrible feeling. The fact you are already dreading it means you have just enough time to plan ahead. Just get out that day. Many galleries are free or visit a park or a free concert or talk. Self care needs to be your mission gojg forward.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (2 December 2016):
 I'd really suggest looking for a job to help you avoid your mum and earn the money to move out, if you haven't already.
I'm sorry she has said such insensitive things to you on your birthdays. I agree with spending the day out, even if it's alone (but stay safe!).
Volunteering would be a great way to spend the day feeling good about yourself because you're helping others/animals.
If you're not into volunteering on your birthday, shopping (or window shopping and not buying) could be nice, if you like that sort of thing.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (2 December 2016):
 wow thats mean! My advice would be to get up early before she does, go out for the day and stay well away from her. Dont even give her the time or space to make you feel so bad. Treat yourself to something special. I notice you are unemployed therefore money may be a bit tight but it doesn't even have to be something monetary. Just time off and away from her would be a gift in itself. I guess you could look at it from another perspective. People make birthdays all about them. My day, me me me. Not that there is anything wrong with that but instead come Dec 7th it is the day that you were put on this earth so what can you do to celebrate all that you are and worth by doing something for someone else. Perhaps volunteer for the day and enjoy knowing that you are important in the life of those you have spent the day with. A cup of tea and a chat with the elderly or loving up some animals at a shelter would be a nice way to spend the day. Whatever it is you do, happy birthday
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