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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): Why should you be forced to choose? You should choose both and not have to make a decision between the person who has brought you up and the person that you are romantically involved with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): I agree with Cool Cucumber, it is a difficult choice as long as doesn't sound like blackmail, you should really don't have to make choice on this. You partner should have a open undrestanding of your relationship and commitments to your mum. The is only one mum in this world, I am not saying for that reason you should let someone you love to walk away, but I can also garantee you will find the better one who loves you more undrestand that you shouldn't even get in to this position of making choice between your partner and you mum.
I short answer I go for the mum choice.
However more info needed in this case.
Good luck
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reader, Saz464  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 The partner! Your mum will always be there for you and is meant to forgive you anything whereas this guy could walk out and you'll have lost someone you love dearly.
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reader, Cool Cucumber +, writes (7 February 2007):
 You should never have to make a choice like that...sounds like blackmail, we need more info really to go on...
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reader, martini  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 [laughs] I mean Mister 22-25 Anon... [ahem] Must be the excessive game playing I've been doing all day... 8/
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reader, martini +, writes (7 February 2007):
Depends on the situation as others have mentioned, but I wouldn't choose just one of the two. It is in my perspective too unrefined to be given that ultimatum by either person. They make up a different aspect of my life, both are equally as important by concept, and I would glady give my life to either or if the situation calls for it. Otherwise if either one forces an ultimatum, I would simply see them as petty. Since I cannot simply ditch my mom or my parents for that fact, if my mate has major problems with my mom, then most likely those problems arise from jealousy or miscommunication or the usual pettiness.
Remember, my mate is my intimate companion. My mom is my mother. It's like asking me "Which would you choose to cut off - you right arm or your right leg?"
Which limb would you choose to cut off Ms. 22-25 Anon?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): you should`nt have to choose as they both love you but in different ways.
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reader, realm  +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Don't be shy explain as much as you need, as I would say it is hard to give an opinion based on just the moral of your question. I would say if it was just a choice and nothing serious it would be your family, your mom has done much more for you than anyone in the world and she deserves to have that respect. Now if it was a serious relationship then I would say your lover, your mom may be your mom and as a mom with life experience she needs to accept your decisions and should not let things like that interfere. Remember everyone is entitled to love and no one has the right to take that away.
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reader, cd206 + ♥, writes (6 February 2007):
 Depends how serious the partner was. I'd be inclined to say family last longer than lovers but if I were married to a great guy my answer might be different. Want to provide some context?
CD
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (6 February 2007):
 depends on the situation. you gotta give more details ;) x x
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