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writes:Hey, I'm 16 (turning 17 in January) and my mom kicked me out. I don't know what to do because my Dad just got kicked out too (sensing a theme anyone?) and he lives with his mom so there's no room for me. This is the first night so I have no idea what to do... I'm staying with my boyfriend tonight but i highly doubt his mom will let me move in. I have no friends who'll let me stay more than a couple nights... I don't want to go back home because she takes all my money and already has a new boyfriend who she brings to the house. Somebody tell me what to do!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi again. Not too much has changed. My mom felt bad and begged me to come home so I stay there during the school week (unless I can stay at a friends or squeeze in with my dad for a night) but on weekends and holidays I live with my boyfriend in Mass. It's not as worrisome, knowing I have a place to stay, no matter how irritating. I'm moving to Mass with my boyfriend when I graduate (so seven months). Thanks to everyone who replied, it made it a lot easier to direct myself! =]
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 October 2009):
 How are you doing? Have you found help? Please follow up with us so we don't worry about you. If you can tell us which state you live in, that can help us find resources for you.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): My mom did this too, I had to go to my friends house and stay there for a couple of days until she cooled down and took me back in but in the end i moved out and now i live with my friend.Do you have a friend that can take you in?Or more family?I agree with the rest of these people. Contact boystown or the center for runaway teens they are a great help. Talk to a couselor or teacher I mean you can't be alone on the streets right?Good luck and Stay Safe Bay.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (21 October 2009):
 Probably your best bet is to go to one of the womens' shelters or contact the United Way in your town.
There are half-way houses for runaway teens, though you didn't run, it seems heartless that your dad and grandmother can't make space for you and it seems reckless to abandon you to the streets. Your mother must be something else entirely.
I've heard of moms ignoring their children, but that's so rare. But to see your dad ignore your needs and your grandmother ignore them .... that doesn't make any sense at all!
Somehow I suspect there's a little bit more to this story than you've let on. I don't doubt that your out of the house, and staying with your friend. But I think that you have some issues here that need to be addressed and no one can do that without the entire story as in "WHY?".
You must've been raised in the least-caring family in the world to have 3 relatives refuse to let you stay there, including a grandmother. And I cannot believe your dad wouldn't help you find a place to stay if you had nowhere to live. So it leaves a big hole there.
You could try charities like BoysTown (they take girls now too by the way) with the number being: Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000. They can hook you up in a crisis situation and you can avoid the drama and trauma of going through the state children/family systems.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 October 2009):
Whose place is it? Your mother's? Or your parents together? I'd go to the school counselor tomorrow morning, first thing, and tell him or her what your situation is. There should be a local office on child services, call them too.
I think another option is to find the local womens shelter and explain your situation there. A local church or your family doctor or nearby hospital may be able to help too. If she physically assaulted you, I'd go to the police as well. Frankly, if I were in your shoes, I'd be calling every number in the "government" section of the White Pages until I found the agency that could help me.
You don't have to yell and scream, just keep calmly telling your story and don't budge until you are in front of the person or people who can help you. Good luck.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (21 October 2009):
 So both of your parents are leaving you to deal with this yourself? Um, your Dad needs to father-up and figure out how to help you. And you could at least crash on a couch or on a floor with your Dad & Grandma for a little bit. I'm sure they don't want you out wandering the streets!
Do you have a friend or other relative that you can stay with? Are you in school right now? Talk to a teacher, or call the police or social services. Talk to someone who can help you and get you safe and give you the resources you need to help yourself out of this situation. Your Mom sounds totally irresponsible and selfish.
Go to someone. Good luck!
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (21 October 2009):
 child protective services? a halfway house? a friend? another family member?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): make sure that you let the social services know that you have no home, please dont despair, and dont count out living with your mum still.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 October 2009):
I'm really sorry this is happening. Is there a woman's hostal that you can do to? Or is there any way you could persuade your Dad to at least give you the money to stay somewhere?
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