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writes:im 19, my boss is 36yrs old, he's married with 2 sons aged 2 and 7yrs old. i started my job in april 2006 and he was always a real interesting guy we were great frends and got on very well, then in august 2006 he rang me asking did i want to crash at his house for the night(the wife and kids went on holidays) but i thought he just wanted a chat and a few drinks but we ended up having sex(with no condom and im not on the pill)in september we had sex (with condom)in october we had sex(with condom)in november we had sex(without condom)i think i might be pregnant....my period is late...i am very worried...i cannot quit my job bcoz i signed a contract for three years!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): So, are you or aren't you? Hopefully you've found out by now, either way, everything always has a way of working itself out even though your current situation sounds like a tricky one, you shouldn't let it bring you down too much. Ironically, your situation also made me stop and think, because I am very attracted to my boss and he actually sounds similar to yours (weird I know) he is also married with 2 sons the same ages as yours, and if I'm not mistaking his wife and kids also were away in August. Anyway, I am very attracted to my boss (just sexually) and I really wanted to pursue it just never did because he seems pretty commited to his family, well the kids anyway. But for awhile I was REALLY considering it, so after reading about your experience, it really made me think. But, to be honest if my boss pursued me first I'm not sure I'd reject him. I know thats awful but he's a very attractive man..LOL and I am only human. Anyway, if you ever want to talk drop me an email. [email address blocked]
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): How nice will be be when she is 23yo and has three different kids from three different fathers.... none of whom is around. Or when she writes back in to say that she is having an affair with her wonderful boss who has a wife who doesnt understand him, but he hasnt left her like he keeps promising to. Women can correct me, but doesnt every girl's mother tell them what a man has on his mind when he invites them over for drinks and to 'crash' while is wife is out of town?Look at the facts here in the letter. The question writer is either: - actually stupid - willfully ignorantThis will get much worse if she doesnt face her own issues. Oh you can go get an abortion with the guys money, but that is just making the problem go away so you dont really have to think about it. How do you plan on 'aborting' herpes or aids in the future? Not so nice.
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reader, Zoie +, writes (13 November 2006):
 wow that is really a mess dont listen to that guy that responded to this post it wasnt very nice and he made himself look like an ass. of course it always a bad idea to sleep with your boss but what is done is done i would say get a test and see if you are or not and if your not then i would try to avoid him as much as you can i know things will work out for you if you ever need to talk go ahead and send me a message
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006):
Didn't you have a mother or anything?
The boss having you over for drinks and 'crashing' was transparent from the first. You honestly want us to believe that you didnt realize what you were getting into?
Likewise, there are six billion people on the planet because sex works! It causes babies! I dont know why you thought you could have sex without any consequences...
Put the baby up for adoption and let the clutch out on your brain. I see nothing but bad things in the future if you dont start thinking things through.
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reader, HONEST JULIE +, writes (13 November 2006):
 I WOULD SAY GO AND GET A PREGNACY TEST DONE AT THE DOCTORS AND IF COMES BACK POSITIVE TELL YOUR BOSS, AND SEE IF HE IS WILLING TO PAY HIS WAY
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (12 November 2006):
 Well you have got yourself into a mess haven't you, dear? Going with someone at work: always a bad idea. Going with your boss: an even worse idea. And not using a condom with any guy: what were you thinking?! But it's done now and you have to sort this mess before a little baby may be brought into it.
Firstly, find out whether or not you're pregnant. Then you can tackle the problems that you have and not ones that may not even be happening. Then, you have to talk to this guy if you are pregnant. Don't let him force you into any decision, but I think his wife needs to know too.
If you're not pregnant, walk away from this and call it a lesson learnt. Always protect yourself and don't mess things up for yourself where you have to work for the next few years: it's just causing unneccessary problems for you and you don't need them right now.
This is a big mess and I can't really say much to you until you know whether or not you are pregnant. This man doesn't sound very nice if he can do this to his wife and family. He took advantage of you, he's much older and you shouldn't allow him to do this to you anymore. Find someone to confide in about all this, you need someone to talk to.
If you want more help, personal mail me. Good luck
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