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writes:I'm 15 years old and I've been going out with my 21 year old boyfriend for 7 months, he loves me but I'm not sure if I feel the same. The main reason why I got with him is cause he treats me like a queen, he respects me and puts me first in his life but I think I'm not quite over my ex (15 years old). Recently I saw my ex again at a party and I had drunk a little so we kissed. Now I feel guilty because of my boyfriend and I think the kiss brought old feelings back. I went out with my ex for a year but the second half of the year was really bad, he didn't treat me right and he cheated on me but I kept on giving him chances, now he claims that he has changed and that he loves me but I don't know if I should believe him this time, plus I don't have the heart to leave my actual boyfriend. He's the one that my logical side tells me to keep but really I wish to be with my ex. What should I do????
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): It seems to me you shouldn't be with either of them at this moment in time. I think what your feeling is you don't want to leave your boyfriend because you're afraid of being alone again and single, but you don't have to be with someone! It's not fair on your boyfriend when you're not sure you want to be with him. Imagine what you'd feel like if you found out he was considering other girls, but basically playing you and using you until he made his choice? You're being selfish honey. Stop it. So my advice to you would be finish with your boyfriend, because he seems to be a great guy and whether you admit it or not, you're kind of using him. And your ex.. Well, who knows whether he's changed or not. Give it time, and if he actually has changed, still loves you and won't treat you bad, maybe give him a second shot. Good luck okay honey :]
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reader, Miss C  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 To be honest i don't think you should be in any relationship at the moment. It seems like you're just with your current boy friend because he treats you like a queen and shows you complete respect. This isn't really a good enough reason to stay in a relationship because at the end of the day... if there is no love then you can never be truly happy with him. As for your ex boyfriend, it didn't work once before so how can you be sure the same won't occur again? I'm not saying it will, I'm just saying you have to be cautious and sure that it is worth it to give him another chance. You said you aren't sure if you belive him and trust is a very important thing in a relationship, if there is none then it will nevr work. I think the best decision you could make right now is to end it with your current boy friend and chill out, stay single and then see how you feel about your ex. At the end of the day, I'm reminding you that this is just advice, no one can tell you what is right or wrong. Miss C xx
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