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30-35,
*dahyah
writes:I had a crush with an older man who is about 60-65 not because i like him but because of situations this man will ask for sex all the time and anytime i give him sex i get hurt and sometimes when i say no is a problem too he gets mad at me,he makes my life a living hell in the sense that i cant even go out with anyone and all that he promised to do for me has not be done. Im not happy should i do.
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986  +, writes (19 November 2016):
You are very welcome. Nobody shouldn't make you do anything you don't want to do at all. And that is being force to have sex against your well or being told to keep on having sex. He should not take advantage of you since you're old enough go be his daughter. If he really respects you then he will stopped forcing you to have sex even though it hurt the first time or another time you both had sex with one another.
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reader, idahyah +, writes (18 November 2016):
idahyah is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for the word of encouragement I'm really thankfull
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (18 November 2016):
I will get out of whatever you have with the 60-65 year man. You are old enough to be his daughter. If it hurts you, then he shouldn't keep on having sex with you at all. Are you a virgin? Then if you are one, then that is why it is very painful to have sex with someone. If he is alot bigger then you,that could be why it hurt also. seems to me he only likes you so he can have sex with you. That is not like or love at all. I don't think a man can make you do whatever he wants without your concent. If you don't want to have sex then don't have sec with him at all. If he gets mad at you then he is a even bigger jerk. I will find a person closer to your age. Not a man who is half way to your age. If you are unhappy then leave. Don't stick around to wait for what he will do to you next. Most men who like to control women, abuse them also. If he will do that then leave. Pack all your stuff and run away from him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 November 2016):
 Isn't it intuitive ?... Stop having sex with him. You don't like it, you don't like HIM, you are unhappy, he limits your social life- just end it. You don't OWE sex to anybody. And he can't force you , unless he wants to end up in jail.
This sounds very much like some sort of commercial transaction, or tit-for-thar; you were going to give him sex on request because he had promised to do X for you or to give you X. Terrible idea anyway.... but, in any case, he did not respect his part of the agreement, so I don't see why you should have any scruples or hesitations in terminating said agreement.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (17 November 2016):
 You need to leave. You are almost a child compared to him; he's using you and any arrangement you've had is not what's happening here.
I don't know enough about your country to tell you how, but you need to leave. Don't have sex with someone who doesn't care about you - sex shouldn't hurt if the person is gentle, uses lubricant and makes sure you are also aroused and ready physically for sex.
If he didn't use condoms, you may have got a disease from him, so please see a doctor and always use protection and contraception.
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