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My libido just died...does anyone have any answers?

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Question - (2 July 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 2 July 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *mity=Friendship writes:

My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly 5 years now, and we have maintained a healthy sex life. We have yet to actually have intercourse, seeing as we want to wait until we get married (for contraceptive purposes), but we are still able to fulfill each other's needs regardless.

In the last month, however, my sex drive has been extremely abnormal. For ex. in the middle of our love-making, I will be feeling really great, but all of a sudden, for no reason whatsoever, my libido will just die, and I am unable to finish.

For the last two weeks, my boyfriend has been unable to make me reach orgasm, and it is starting to worry me. We have tried taking a break from the sexual aspect of our relationship and working on the romance, but no matter how great our dates are, how amazing he makes me feel, or how aroused he gets me, I am unable to reach climax. He's very understanding and patient, but I can tell it is wearing on him...

I have tried masturbation, and I have found that this method as well turns up fruitless. It's like my body just completely turned my sex drive off and I don't know how to turn it back on. The only way that I have been able to reach orgasm recently is by having him assist me in masturbation. I really don't want to have to resort to this every time we want to be intimate, though. We have tried exploring my body slowly and that doesn't work either.

I can't go to a doctor, because I don't have the money and there are no free clinics in the area.

Can someone please help??

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A female reader, sweetsiepie United Kingdom +, writes (2 July 2010):

sweetsiepie agony aunthey hunny i think you need to rest and relax more i think its really sweet that you want to wait till your married but you can still make things a little more exciting try role play and things like that it might seem silly but it can also change things as well and try to eat more fruit as well sometimes it can be your diet that changes how your sex drive goes x

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