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writes:I am in a long distance relationship with a guy. We have been together for 1 year. He loves me, I know that. But whenever I need him, he is never there for me. If am disturbed at night, he prefers to sleep because he doesn't feel like spoiling his schedule and am left alone. I tried to talk to him, but of no help. I respect his busy Schedule, but hate the fact that it is above me.I just can't handle it anymore. am completely lost. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2013): If you need someone around when you have night terrors, perhaps it's time to give up the make-believe LDR; and establish a relationship with someone who can be there for you.
He has a right to set his schedule above chatting in the middle of the night. We all need rest in order to properly function on our jobs and to be alert throughout the day.
Did he have to move away for school or work, or is he someone you met online; and you've been holding out waiting for something real to happen?
If you need to have someone around, find someone you can spend time with in-person. If he's never there for you; it's because you're the only one holding on to the LDR.
I think he's sending you a message.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (11 October 2013):
 What exactly do you mean by if you are disturbed at night?
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (11 October 2013):
 If he is busy with work or on a different time zone then its understandable why he doesn't want to spoil his schedule and talk all night to you.
Has your boyfriend said he's ready to commit to you fully? if he commits then it will close down the distance and lack of connectedness.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 October 2013):
 have you ever even MET this man you are LDR with?
it's been a year, you are not children, when are you two ending the distance?
if you have never met him and/or there is no plan to end the distance then, he's not there for you because you are not a real person to him and he has no real feelings other than wasting time.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 October 2013):
He's never there for you anyways it's an LDR. Dump him and go meet someone that can literally and figuratively be there for you.
Trust me, it's a lot better in person. You're just wasting your time trying to make a guy behave in a way he's not interested in behaving.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (11 October 2013):
This is the problem of long distance but you should also ask yourself if he was any closer, would he break his schedule to comfort you. I know I would do it for my girl. But perhaps this is something you must think about if you are willing to ignore this problem or find someone else because there will be no compromises by your guy.
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