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writes:well im from NZ and im having a LDR with a guy from Australia. we've met once when i was in Australia, well he is comeing to visit me in 2 days and he'll be staying in a hotel and he wants to have sex with me. im ready to have sex with him but the thing is i dont know how to do the buisness, as im still a virgin , i need help on what to do while having sex and how to do it .
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reader, slimfish +, writes (27 October 2010):
 stop worring, this guy will show you how it's done.you are about to embark on a great adventure, and another phase of your life. good luck.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Are you really sure you are ready to have sex with him? Seeing as you don't know anything about it and will be starting from zero?
There are many websites out there that describe sex and what happens. What I would recommend is that you not feel you have to do anything with him that you aren't fully prepared for.
Is he flying back to Australia and then you continue the relationship? How old is he and how old are you? Have you discussed your attitudes and beliefs regarding sex and sexuality?
Has he had sex before? What are you going to do for barrier protection against STIs and pregnancy? Do you know if he has been screened for STIs by a physician and what are the results?
Here's a great tool for you and it will provide links for further information: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/ready_or_not_the_scarleteen_sex_readiness_checklist
Perhaps a little more information on you and why you seem to be so unprepared for this event might help us advise you better. Take care.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 You have to tell your boyfriend you are a virgin, and he should guide you through it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Having just done the act the first time, its tough to guide you other than if he cares for you he wont care that you are and so you'll expore together and have fun and you prob wont leave the hotel haha :)
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reader, es12  +, writes (27 October 2010):
Hi - as long as you WANT to sleep with this guy then go for it. And don't worry about being a virgin - let this guy know the situation and if he's worth giving your virginity too then he will understand. When it comes to the actual act as I said this guy should be on hand for any help and just go with the flow let your hands wander where they want to go and pay attention.
I hope this helps - don't worry about it too much - the main thing is to enjoy it.
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