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My husband's love of porn sluts makes me second best!

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Question - (31 July 2015) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 August 2015)
A female Australia age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My husband tells me he loves the 'porn sluts ' as he calls them . I am beginning to think he finds them sexier and more interesting than me

I asked him what he likes and he says they look hot . I am adventurous and look after myself plus im his wife but this love of these women makes me feel second best

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2015):

Definitely find a similarly 'hot' name to call men and start using it about really fit guys you see in TV. Don't have to resort to porn. I had a boyfriend who was like your guy once. I used to comment on guys on TV who were both fit and really intelligent and say "wow what a beautiful man..looks and brains now that is f**** dangerous". I could see him squirming uncomfortably on the sofa. I dumped him soon after but felt great.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2015):

I've said it many times and I'll say it again. Maybe one day, all the men will finally get it. I can hope, right? Anyway, porn stars or "sluts" as your husband refers to them are "hot" because of breast implants (or simply breast lifts in some cases), labiaplasty, makeup that is applied to not only their faces but their entire body, and it's applied by professionals so you can't even tell they're wearing it. On top of that, a lot of them are wearing hair extensions, false eyelashes, and I'm probably still missing some things. I'm not saying they can't be attractive without all that stuff, but it's that very stuff that gives them that "wow" factor men drool over.

I can't understand why so many men compare their partners to this 100 percent fake look. Apparently they are either unaware how fake it truly is, (and they will just call you jealous if you point it out), or they know and choose to ignore it.

By the way, if he calls you jealous it's a cop out to place the blame on YOU. Besides, whether you're jealous or not doesn't make those women's looks any less fake. The point in my saying all this is don't let him turn this around on you, if you try to talk to him. He's being rude if nothing else. If he's your age or older, then by now he certainly knows there are certain things you just don't say to your partner.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2015):

If my husband referred to any woman as a "slut" he would have a whole world of trouble on his hands...

Your husband sounds like he lacks respect, hes not respectful to the fact you're his wife and he's clearly showing his preference for other woman over you. Many men watch porn, and it doesn't have to be an issue. But when a man puts you second to porn, well that's a problem.

You need to talk to him. Or you could just play him at his game and start watching porn yourself, tell him how hot the guys are...childish, but I'd be tempted to do that as a way to show him how irritating his own comments can be.

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