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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I hae been married to my husband for two years. His ex-wife has been a constant interference in our marriage. At one point he was discussing our relationship with her and getting advice, he also was talking to her anywhere from 3 to 6 times a day. He always said it was about their kids but I have a difficult time believing what he says. When she is around he acts nervous and doesn't pay any attention to me. He has gone behind my back multiple times and given her exactly what she wants with no regard for me or decisions we have made together. He doesn't defend my when she is cussing me and saying untrue statements. The phone calls have been minimized due to my calling her and threatening to contact her new husband and letting him know what she is doing. I dont trust him and the love I once had is gone. We have a child together and I think children need both parents but I don't know how long I can continue this way. How do you get passed the hurt and resentment to move on and make it work. I just cant do it!
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reader, louxxlouxx  + ♥, writes (30 September 2008):
 Your husband has been extremely unfair to you so you need to have a serious chat with him. Let him know that you are fully aware that he needs to have a civilised relationship with her for the sake of his children and have no problem with them remaining friends but you are not happy with his disrespect for you and that things need to change. Tell him that he needs to make it clear to his ex that insulting you is not acceptable and that your relationship issues should remain between the 2 of you. I know you want 2 full time parents for you child but it will not do you or your child any good staying with someone who makes you miserable. Your child can still have both of you in his/her life and I am sure s/he would be much happier seeing you both seperately and happy than together and bitter and angry. If you think your marriage has any hope then maybe consider counselling and learn through that how to communicate with each other better. Good luck! x
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