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*endy2012
writes:I have been married for five years and recently developed migraine headache. The unfortunate part is apart from inadequate sleep, my husband is always the migraine headache trigger. He can be nasty and moody at times and this causes a reaction in me which ends up giving me a debilitating migraine headache. How do I deal with this? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 If he is so nasty to you, then why do you put up with it? This is your life, you are in control of your own happiness, if this was me I would tell him he needs to stop being nasty or he is going to lose me, if he didn't listen I would pack my bags and go.
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reader, wendy2012 +, writes (10 February 2016):
wendy2012 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice. I will try to discuss it with him and see how it can be sorted. However, I have resolved to go away for a little while just to have a breather. I already have a headache from his nastiness just after spending an hour with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2016): Think about yourself. Not him. Why is his behaviour giving you headaches? If you're tolerant of his abuse and walk on egg shells not to provoke him, try to control his emotions and behaviors - you're in a codependant relationship.
By doing all or some of the above you are not only giving yourself headaches, but enabling him. You behavior is encouriging his bad traits, the ones you don't like.
Now, why do yous stay? Why do you put up with it?
If he 's abusive you MUST leave. If you're just incompatable, you can work on it, but you MUST be sure of what you need/want and be clear about this with him. Do not let the fear of his bad temper control you. Stand up for yourself. Do not play the victim part.
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (10 February 2016):
You need to tell him that he does that to you. And if he doesn't care enough, you can decide what you want to do next.
Also, you should try to not let others emotions bother you enough to trigger your migraine.. give yourself a break. Go on a vacation or something.
Take care of your health. It is very important,
Good Luck
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reader, lovebug123123  +, writes (10 February 2016):
I think you need to speak to him about his behavior. Guys hate it when you point the finger and make them feel like its 'all there fault' to say. but just speak to him about how your migraines are affecting you and that sometimes his mood etc can contrubute. Im not saying its all you , its my sleep problems too but im just having a hard time at the moment with it. could you be extra nice to me please :)try make it a bit light hearted so he doesn't feel like he's being targeted as i said. maybe even ask if he will come doctors with you cause your worried/struggling with migraine, you would really appricate it. make him feel needed I know how you feel , i get really bad migraines , esp at work. try getting a massage , it can help tension in the neck and back and help headaches
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