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My husband tries to impress the new girl next door when she visits - and I caught him looking down her shirt!!

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Question - (30 January 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 16 February 2007)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I wonder if my cheating husband will cheat again???

He’s this alpha male and just draws girls to him with his sweet talking and charming ways.

He’s cheated on me before and I made it clear that if he cheated on me again I would leave him. However, 8 years have passed and he of course has always had this wondering eye. I always told myself that as long as it’s only looking, I’ll be okay.

We got new neighbors about 6months ago; it’s a married couple about our age.

They are both very attractive the guy is handsome as can be, but his wife is just sexy (too sexy for my liking, like a Salma Hyak type of girl).

They come over on the weekends and we have a few drinks, and I, on a personable level do like her, but I’ve noticed my husband being a little more of a show off.

I think he’s trying to impress her. I’ve caught him looking at her and it makes me so mad, but I don’t want to be the nagging wife. I know this girl next door isn’t flirting with my husband; she has a drop dead gorgeous husband. I think my husband has the hots for her =(.

The other day she asked to use our computer while my husband was away and I guess she really did need to do some research. [she came over knowing my husband wasn’t home] However, my husband came back from the store and was looking over her to look down her shirt.

I’ve had arguments with him and he says not to start with that subject, that im crazy and imagining things.

I feel that if my dear neighbor girl would give him time of day he’d jump on the opportunity. I think he would, but im not sure. The thing again is that she isn’t interested in him.

Can any guy tell me what you think when you see a friendly pretty girl with large breast and a good body? Even if you were married, what are you guys thinking when you see that? Would you act on it, would you think about her when you make love to your wife?

–Jealous wife that doesn’t want to nag

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2007):

I agree with the others. Just because you're in love with your husband doesn't mean he has to have all the power in your relationship. Both of you will be happier if you took some back. Make yourself as hot as you can, as impervious to his stupid crush as possible, and as in demand as possible, and he'll start to pay attention. It'll take some time so get started right away. Just changing the way you think will take you far. And please update us with your progress!

ET

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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom +, writes (31 January 2007):

AskEve agony auntDon't say anything bad about this neighbour but admit to him how pretty she is, then say "in fact her husband's kind of handsome too don't you think?" See his reaction. Go on and say "they make the perfect couple and they see so into one another, just like us darling". If you make light of it and don't come across like a jealous, unassertive woman you may be surprised by his reply.

Is she's anything like Salma Hyak then you can't blame him for "looking", he wouldn't be a true male if he didn't look after all. My advice to you here is to take a look at yourself and enhance YOUR good features. Take more time with yourself when you dress, make sure you always look great, seduce your husband in the bedroom and wear sexy lingerie, take the lead, show him how confident and assertive you can be. Men love a confident woman!

Re-ignite what you and him have. I'm sure if you do this he won't have eyes for anyone else (not even her) but for his beautiful sexy wife! ;o)

Eve

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A female reader, Jendorset United Kingdom +, writes (30 January 2007):

Get over not wanting to nag. You are NOT imagineing things and you are NOT crazy. Your mans just saying that so he doesnt have to admit it. Sit him down, and tell him about it. If he tries to cut you off then hes obviously got a guilty conscious. Tell him hes acting like a silly immature teenager and that this naibour woman has got a gorgeous husband and wouldnt be interested. OR why dont you stare at her husband, or talk about how lovely he is. You could always write about how sexy the other is in a diary and leave it where your husband would read it. Or you could jump on your husband in your best undergarments. Personally i would just leave the sad old bloke. He seems pathetic, he will probly cheat on you again. Dump him, tell him he just doesnt do it for you.

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