New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login224075 questions, 973546 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

My husband spends most of his time at work and not at home. I have also taken a liking to one of his co-workers. I can't stop thinking about him! Advice?

Tagged as: Forbidden love, Troubled relationships<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (31 January 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 February 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

They always say that a problem shared is a problem halved but in this case just writing it down will help.

I am newly married mother of two young children and been with my partner for 7 years. My husband is a wonderful man, gets on with all my family and friends and life up until I got married was fantastic. I find that his job is very stressful and often takes presidence to anything at home. He works with a very lovely man who I see on a regular basis as he is often in/out of the house relating to work but I am finding that we are better suited that I am to my husband and I can't stop thinking about him, do you think that this will go away as I do not want to feel this way but I am thinking more and more about him as the days go on...please help with some honest advice.

View related questions: at work, co-worker

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, Jovial South Africa +, writes (1 February 2007):

Jovial agony auntHi

I think what u need to do is get more involved in your marriage the reason you are seeing more faults in your husband is because you have a crush on his colleague he seem like a lovely man because that’s what he is to you, because u don’t know him so how can he just appear vile to you? Do you know that grass is always greener on the other side? If u decide to leave your husband today for him I am telling u in few months time after seeing his flaws you will wish you have kept the husband but this is the way life is we cant get enough out of it.

Figure out what happened along the way you have known him for 7yrs assess the gaps and you will know what is missing in your marriage. You seem to be having problems with his job if u can become a loving and understanding wife just for a day you will notice the difference. Give him a massage surprise him with a nice cooked meal and learn more bedroom tactics you might find that he is just burying himself on work because he knows he is loosing you but doesn’t know how to get you back. Remember it takes a wife and a husband to make a marriage work. So try and find ways of getting rid of your crush and by making your husband look forward to coming home might be the answers you seek because he wont see why he should take work home when he has a lovely wife and kids waiting for him.

jovial

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, Jovial South Africa +, writes (1 February 2007):

Jovial agony auntHi

I think what u need to do is get more involved in your marriage the reason you are seeing more faults in your husband is because you have a crush on his colleague he seem like a lovely man because that’s what he is to you, because u don’t know him so how can he just appear vile to you? Do you know that grass is always greener on the other side? If u decide to leave your husband today for him I am telling u in few months time after seeing his flaws you will wish you have kept the husband but this is the way life is we cant get enough out of it.

Figure out what happened along the way you have known him for 7yrs assess the gaps and you will know what is missing in your marriage. You seem to be having problems with his job if u can become a loving and understanding wife just for a day you will notice the difference. Give him a massage surprise him with a nice cooked meal and learn more bedroom tactics you might find that he is just burying himself on work because he knows he is loosing you but doesn’t know how to get you back. Remember it takes a wife and a husband to make a marriage work. So try and find ways of getting rid of your crush and by making your husband look forward to coming home might be the answers you seek because he wont see why he should take work home when he has a lovely wife and kids waiting for him.

jovial

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, cd206 United Kingdom +, writes (1 February 2007):

cd206 agony auntI'm not sure you'll like this advice but the way I see it is that you made your choice and now you have two young kids who deserve to grow up in a secure family environment. This guy from work is just a case of the grass is always greener. I think in your heart you know it'd be wrong to pursue it.

CD

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "My husband spends most of his time at work and not at home. I have also taken a liking to one of his co-workers. I can't stop thinking about him! Advice?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.046875!