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My husband is never passionate or even affectionate... All I want is a kiss after work!

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Question - (28 April 2005) 3 Answers - (Newest, 30 November 2010)
A , anonymous writes:

I am so tired of trying to get my husband to be passionate towards me. We have talked about it a hundred times and he is not doing anything to change like he said he would. I feel like I am just here to keep him company and keep his shit clean. He is always talking about how cute other women are, but not me anymore.

I don't think he is cheating, but I don't think he is telling me the truth about why he isn't affectionate to me. It's not all about the sex, but I want him to show his love. Maybe just kiss me when he gets home from work every day or hold me in his arms.

How can I get the truth out and what do I do if he does not change?

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A female reader, ArizTerry United States +, writes (30 November 2010):

ArizTerry agony auntI have been married almoist 25 years to the same kind of man..Trust me its not worth it ...Find a man who will treat you like you deserve to be treated.. a woman should never have to do with out affection ...dont live your life with regreats

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A female reader, PamelaMarie United States +, writes (28 February 2010):

My husband pushes me away,how can I get him to pay me attention? If I got half the stroking the cat gets I'd be happy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2005):

Some men just aren`t very good at showing their feelings whilst others make all the overblown romantic gestures a woman could ever wish for. Some are only able to show affection when in private.

Most men will notice an attractive woman but then women notice fit men too.

It sounds to me like he is just one of the guys who isn`t good at showing feelings. Perhaps he never learnt how to express his feelings as he was growing up. Don`t forget children learn from example and if he never saw a lot of affection outwardly from the male mentors in his young life he just might not know how to be Romantic and outwardly affectionate.

Try asking him again to perhaps show you just a little more that you are not asking for the whole candlelit dinners etc just the occasional kiss and cuddle. If he still won`t change even a little it may just be that he is set in his ways and you will either have to learn to accept this and live with it.

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