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age
41-50,
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writes:Dear cupid, this problem is hard for me to solve and embarrassing too, but i really need your help. i'm 28 and my husband is 33. we've been married for 4 years and have a young son.over the past few months my husband's become obsessed with fast food - McDonald's, Burger King, Subway - and was suspended from work the week before Christmas - for masturbating over pictures of McDonald's food that were on the internet. He's suspended until the end of January.When we were on holiday last year taking our young son with us we went to a theme park and I lost my husband - until the security guards told me he was in the McDonald's eating. I was shocked to discover he'd spent £100 on McDonald's for himself.i tried to get him to see the realities of his habit by hiring a dvd of "Super Size Me" but he just started masturbating during it whenever he saw McDonald's food and laughing at the guy who was in the film. it didn't work.We don't have a sex life much any more as he's become obsessed with his fast food - wherever we are, whatever we're doing he seeks out the nearest McDonald's/Burger King/Subway.I tried to seduce him wearing sexy lingerie, but he just went up to the computer and began masturbating over pictures of McDonald's and Burger King food. he's been doing that all over the festive season as well.I felt so upset that he ignored me like that- we used to have a great sex life - and to think he could throw it away for that!he said if i want sex i should sleep with "some other dude" but i couldn't as that would be cheating.he was upset on christmas day because he was eating christmas dinner and wanted to eat a "mcd's or a subway". he said mcdonald's is the best christmas dinner for anyone.when we go out all he wants to do is go to a mcdonald's, burger king, subway or any fast-food outlet.I've tried getting him to eat healthily but he just insists "it's more guff, i eat what i want, and I will eat burger king and mcd's as much as i want!"i feel so upset, i don't know where to go next, i told my mum and she said to me don't worry.he used to be a man who was kind and loving, now he's just obsessed with fast food, even spending huge amounts of money on it.where do i go from here?? how do i get our sex life back?? how do i get the man he used to be back??all help is appreciated - michelle xx
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (28 December 2007):
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reader, Yos  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 It sounds like you are having to deal with a really difficult situation.
Based on what you've said, it sounds like your husband has not only an addiction problem, but very possibly a more serious psychological problem developing. His behaviour is highly disfunctional (effecting work and your life together). This could be the beginning stages of something very serious, so you need to act quickly.
You need to have him assessed by a psychiatrist (not psychologist) as soon as possible. I suggest you find one right away, and describe your husbands symptoms to them. They can then help you with how to get your husband in for an assessment, since I imagine he will not want to cooperate. The psychiatrist will also want to know your husbands family history when it comes to mental problems, so if you can supply that it will help.
Good luck, you have my sympathy.
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