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female
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41-50,
*rishguard
writes:I caved to a threesome with my husband, and I don't want to do it again ....but he gets mad and insists that we do. How do I get out of this situation?
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reader, kallalilly +, writes (9 February 2010):
You are not obligated to do anything you don't want to do. If he's pressuring you, that's abusive behavior. He needs to learn what "no" means. If he can't, leave his abusive butt.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (9 February 2010):
 The fact you did it once is going to make it very hard for him to understand why you won't do it again. Why did you agree to it in the first place? What was it about it that made you not want to do it again?
With all that said, assuming this is the only major problem in an otherwise good marriage, is there a way to re-structure your relationship so you both get what you want? Is there a possibility that you would consider him being able to get his threesome without you that you would be able to deal with?
I wonder how he would feel going to a swingers club so he can get his threesome with two women, all the while he notices you being approached by men for sex without you.
Something to consider.
-Frank
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): This is why I dont want a husband......ermm im also not actually gay either...........moving on.
Its time to deal with this situation once and for all.
Have you had a heart to heart with him? Explain how you didnt enjoy it at all and would be very unhappy with yet another stranger in the bedroom. Explain how you like the intimacy when its just you and him.
If that doesnt work, line him up infront of you, SLAP him repetedly and scream in his face.. NO NO NO NO NO NO NO.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 February 2010):
You've made a huge mistake doing it the one time. You tell him straight that you won't do it again. If he persists, then you know he doesn't care about how you feel and you must end it.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (9 February 2010):
 Just say no, and keep saying no... to have a proper threesome everyone must be comfortable. If you don't want to do it, then don't. If he keeps pushing you, tell him your gonna leave and your gonna tell all his friends and his family what he forced you to do.
A man that forces his wife into a threesome when she dosen't want to do it, is no better than a rapist or a pimp. What can he do, he can't kill you. Just keep saying no, and if it gets too much, go outside and shout as loud as you can... "NO HUSBAND, I DON'T WANT TO HAVE A THREESOME, NOW PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE"...
I'm hopping the embarrassment will make him back off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): Keep doing it until you get used to it and love it. OR you can hold to your decision and keep your dignity, and if he doesn't want to change then get rid of him altogether and find someone who will love you without having to screw others at the same time. There are 2 types of people in the world, those with morals and dignity and those with no care what they do with their life, and have no shame. It's not that it's bad, just that it's their decision in life, to be that way. Trying to pair one with the other, long term, is ridiculous, though. If it feels wrong, then don't do it. Don't live to please your husband if he can't please you. It would be living a lie.
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reader, sheldon +, writes (9 February 2010):
Hi,
Could you tell me whether the other person was a female or male?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): Hi,
Prior to my answer, could you tell me whether you two involved a girl or a guy during your sexual intercourse?
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