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writes:My husband fell out with me on our wedding night, it was terrible, I spent the whole night crying and he said he didn't love me and it was over.. well you might ask how did it all start? Well after many stressful months of planning the day arrived it went perfectly, we had the odd glass of wine throughout but after the dinner we were both feeling pretty tipsey. later on I bumped into my nephews freind who I have known for years.. I hugged him and welcomed him to the party (hos girlfreind was with him) I went over to my husband and he said "well i think i will go and find some 16 year old to hug" (we are both 34) we was really off so i called him a childish w**ker and walked off. Well it all started from there. It was horrible. Without going into detail we made up the next day he was mortified by his actions and thinks his drinks may have been spiked? My family were not happy but accepted this. Anyway next weekend it is my nephews wedding in Scotland - his freind is going to be best man. We are going and I am worried my husband will be funny with me?? I haven't told him this guy will be there - i guess i was hoping he had forgotten what he looked like as it was 7 months ago and dark?Do I tell him or see what happens? He is quite childish sometimes? please help!
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reader, WastedLife  + ♥, writes (9 May 2008):
I agree that both of you would do well to avoid unnecessary alcohol, except maybe the champagne, and I'd make a point of being a bit reserved with the guests, and stay very close to your husband, essentially respecting his need to have you belong to him. If this bothers you, remember that guys are wired to have and to hold, and if you spread yourself around the crowd he will probably feel abandoned. I doubt he would admit it, but it may well set him off. At your original wedding, he probably felt abandoned since it is the "bride's" day and you were doing all the wedding things. Grooms endure a lot of posturing for the big day and most of us just think of what we can do together once it's over. I am sure he drank too much as a response to stress, though it seems you did also. I would definitely keep your distance from the guy who set him off, and hold your husband's arm when he is around. DON'T hug the guy - if he gets affectionate, just extend your hand and shake his. He'll get it. Good luck.
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reader, :):):) +, writes (9 May 2008):
I'd see what happens, if it was 7 months ago and your husband had quite a bit to drink then chances are he wont remember him. Besides dropping you're nephews friend into conversation could stir up trouble.
Try not to drink too much and if possible agree with you're husband that neither of you will get drunk. If an argument does arise try and walk away, no matter how angry you are.
Hope you have a nice time in Scotland
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