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writes:ok i dont want to bore everybody with my problem i will try to make it short and plain i am british living abroad with partner unmarried with two kids both to him he works away from home long distance driver i only see him once a week for one day somtimes once a fornight when hes been away all wekend too (says he gets payed double for this) though ive only ever seen 2 payslips in 2 yers!! i want to leave nd get bk to uk but he has took one of kids passports saying its lost tho i know its not..i cant get another one. his mother helps alot she has payed alot of our bills when we been struggling and she helps me alot with kids too asa im lwys on my own...the other day my partner originally had said he wont be home 4 weekend but ended up home on the saturday he went to his mothers..she does all his washing ect for him too ..he called me and said to come there for dinner i did when i arrived i noticed in the middle of his back down from neck two verticle scratch marks looked like cat sratches quite thin both of same thengh and suspiciously like two nail marks..wen i questioned him he says they came from when loading cars on to the truck!! that it could of been worse he said he slaves all month round to listen to nonsence like this from me..his mother believes him too n thinks im paranoid anyway i have no money as i only get just enuff to get by on from jim im depressed and i want to leave him but im scared as he cn be nasty and he loves kids and says i cant take them anyadvice..
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reader, laura585  +, writes (1 July 2009):
This is called economical abuse, its just as common as physical abuse but less talked about because a lot of people dont realize whats going on. He's keeping you in a situation that you cant get out of, and he's doing it on purpose. I dont understand the mentality of men like this, I was with one for six years. You say he can be "nasty" so I'm guessing there is more abuse here even if its just verbal. Dont be afraid to leave him, do what you need to get a new passport for your child and go where you will be happy and feel safe. You are a human, not his property! My thoughts are with you, it will take a lot of strength but believe me, it will be worth it.
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reader, citic101  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 phone the British embassy and tell them your story and see what they can do for you.
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