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My husband and I have decided to separate, so is it ok to date a co-worker?

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Question - (21 July 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 21 July 2010)
A female United States age 41-50, *R's love writes:

My question is: my husband and I have decided to separate in 1 yr, should i consider dating a co-worker i'm very attracted to?

See i have been with my husband for 16 1/2 yrs, married for 16 yrs. My husband is in the military, our first yr and half together was great, but within the next three yrs, we had two beautiful babies and our relationship went downhill the romance,the attention, any affection or appreciation became limited, it only happens when he feels like it, no matter that i have always shown it to him.

My husband feels that i should be happy because he can finanically support our family, even though i have worked our entire marriage. He also feels that i should be happy because he comes home after being deployed for months, because he lets me handle his paycheck, because he has moved our family all over the world for the last 10 yrs, because he buys me nice cars and we live in nice houses. Although, he puts me down, rarely kisses or hugs me, takes advantage of my kind heart. I have been supportive of his military career, i've tried my best to be a good wife, i am honest, for the last 15 1/2 yrs i was totally faithful.

Then we moved to the US for 2 yrs and i met a wonderful man at my job who i am very attracted to, he makes me feel like i am on cloud nine, i have had this feeling for a yr now, my co-worker feels the same about me, but last month we moved overseas, i miss him and my co-worker misses me, so since my husband and i have decided that us separating would be best, when i move back to the US should i date my co-worker? Please respond, i am nervous and scared cause i haven't dated in 16+ yrs

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (21 July 2010):

Honeypie agony auntI suggest you don't start dating this guy yet. Be "single" a little while, get your head straight. You also have 2 kids to consider.

It just never a great idea to "jump" from guy to guy - from one relationship to the next.

Seems to me that you are already emotionally invested in this new guy.

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