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My hsband left me for another woman but wont considera divorce.

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Question - (17 April 2018) 5 Answers - (Newest, 17 April 2018)
A female United States age 41-50, *rixie2020 writes:

My husband left me with other woman his (mistress) it's been 2 weeks now since he left. I'm 37 yr old My husband is 54 and his mistress is 45 year old she's older than me . I want to divorce him coz I don't trust him no more . But my husband doesn't want a divorce he only wants a separation. I think he's playing games he wants a wife and the same time wants a mistress. I can't stand this no more. What should I do ?need an advice from you guys .

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A female reader, Trixie2020 United States +, writes (17 April 2018):

Trixie2020 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you guys for all your advice. I live in Missouri. Yes! I will go see a family divorce lawyer for consultation. I don't have plan to take him back . He is a betrayal a cheater Im no longer trust him.

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A female reader, mystiquek United States + , writes (17 April 2018):

mystiquek agony auntGet yourself some legal advice. Most lawyers offer a free consultation. Don't let your husband bully you. My ex husband (alcoholic) didn't want a divorce either. Too bad. They can't stop you from filing. It is more complicated and it normally costs more money, but as WiseOwl has said its what they call "contested". If you want out then get out. Who cares what he wants if he's playing around? I agree with you, he wants his cake and to eat it too.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (17 April 2018):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntHe's hedging his bets. If it doesn't work out with the mistress, he is hoping to come back.

As the others have said, get legal advice as quickly as possible to protect your position and to get a divorce if you want one.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2018):

You will have to file for what's called a contested divorce. You're the one who wants to file for the divorce; so you will have to get yourself an attorney to file a petition in a family court in your jurisdiction.

You have to get legal advice to determine what the laws are in your state.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (17 April 2018):

Honeypie agony auntYou FILE for divorce. He can't DENY you divorce.

I don't know which state you live in (as different states has different laws) but I would advice you to seek LEGAL advice. Since it's "only" been 2 weeks since he left you can't quite use "abandonment clause" yet...

My guess is... he doesn't want to do a divorce as it would mean divide YOURS and HIS assets. So he MIGHT spend then next few months hiding assets from you.

Hence, SEE a lawyer. Why should you agree to a separation? If there is NO way you would take him back if they don't work out, divorce seems like the best option FOR you... maybe not for him, but really who cares what HE wants?

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