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My girlfriend wants to make love but I'm not ready yet.

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Question - (8 March 2009) 10 Answers - (Newest, 9 March 2009)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Im 13 and my girlfriend is 14 and she says lets make love i said i want to wait what should i do?

a=Do it

b=wait

Please help

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A female reader, bootyboot United States +, writes (9 March 2009):

14?!!! Noooooo, choose option b, wait it out!!!

I was in pig tails and still playing hopscotch at that age, not wondering what kind of condoms to get!

slow down there partner, you are too young for this. Enjoy your innocence while you can, because once you cross that line, things change forever and you're not the same naive, happy little boy you once were.

sex is a big deal, it changes everything, it's very complicated and there's lots of feelings and emotions involved kiddo.

once you have sex with this girl, she might treat you differently, be more clingy or want to run away. or you might want to run away. you both will be confused. you might get her pregnant and that could change your life, and not for the better.

So instead of having sex with this girl, tell her no thanks, i've still got some growing up to do, talk to me when i'm 18.

Now go off and play some video games or go ride your bike, but please, don't have sexx yet. trust me, it's better if you wait, and it will be worth it!

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A male reader, ArmyMedic United Kingdom +, writes (8 March 2009):

ArmyMedic agony auntAnswer B - WAIT, does she know what making love is?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009):

No, for goodness sake, don't. You've already had lots of good reasons here. I'll just add that it's darned close to certain that you'll be very sorry if you do. Probably in the next few weeks when the relationship ends, and for sure later down the road.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009):

It's easy, regardless of your age.

If you want to wait, wait. If she doesn't and doesn't want to wait, let her go. There are 6.5 billion people on the planet. There must be at least a dozen or two dozen girls who are truly right for you. If not, at least a thousand or two thousand of them are compatible with you.

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A male reader, Tomas United States +, writes (8 March 2009):

Another vote for not just too young, but way too young.

Not that there is any "right" age, but if you were 16 or 17 asking me this question, I'd probably try to find out more about you, and about your relationship.

But not at 13 and 14, no way. You seriously need to give yourself more time to get used to the changes happening to you.

Wait for it.

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A female reader, MonksDaBomb United States +, writes (8 March 2009):

MonksDaBomb agony auntBoy, lately I have been feeling so...OLD. And I'm only 25!! I am astounded by how many teenagers are either thinking of or are having sex! It's unbelievable. And all this time I thought teens were into video games lol. Whatever happened to being proud of being a virgin; nowadays it's like being a virgin is like the plague (btw I am a proud virgin).

Seriously, you guys are way, way, WAY too young to be even thinking about sex. Definitely a big NO from me - both of you do not know your bodies, how they work, etc. as both of you may have entered puberty but your body is still adjusting to this big phase in your life. Please tell her no!

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A female reader, jazmarie United States +, writes (8 March 2009):

jazmarie agony auntwhats up with girls now days..they all want to have sex and then they're crying because they end up getting pregnant..dang!dawg she is to young to be thinking about sex..so are you i say you dont.. because you never know something can go wrong and she might get pregnant..sorry to ask but is it your first time???if it is i doesn't hurt to wait..

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A male reader, Flporrego Chile +, writes (8 March 2009):

Flporrego agony auntIn my opinion, let her know that your just wayyy too young. I'm 17 and i still haven't had sex yet. I'm perfectly fine. probably more decent than a lot of guys that have had it.. The longer you wait, the better you feel about yourself in the future. that's my opinion. Your sitll VERY young. Wait till at least your junior year in high school before you have sex.

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A male reader, justadvise United States +, writes (8 March 2009):

What is going on nowadays? you guys are way to young to be even think about sex. I don't think you're at that age to be having sex. it doesn't hurt to wait...it would sux if she get pregnant at that age and then what...?

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A female reader, triedit Canada +, writes (8 March 2009):

triedit agony auntWAIT WAIT WAIT!

She's not really wanting sex, she's wanting a relationship and some affection and some assurances that you aren't going to leave her. Subconsciously she thinks sex is going to make her feel secure. It isn't.

Don't ever let anyone talk you into anything you don't already want to do. If she loves you she will respect your decision. If she doesn't respect it, then good riddance.

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