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writes:hi, i'm 19 and my girlfriend is 22, and we have been in a relationship for about 6 months. well recently she told me that she wanted to kiss me, now ive never been with anyone before (whereas she has), and i dont feel very confident kissing her quite yet id would like to give it a bit more time befor ei make that step. but i can sense that she is getting impatient, how can i get it through to her that i am not quite ready to take this step?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (25 July 2010):
 Are you waiting for the perfect moment? Or do you think the longer you wait the better at kissing you get?
Honestly, no one starts out being great kissers, it's something you can only learn by doing. Like riding a bike.
If you care for her, surprise her with a kiss. As kiss is after all just a kiss.
If it was sex you weren't sure of, I could understand it but the kissing, not so much.
I think you are over thinking the whole kiss thing.
What exactly is it that you are afraid will happen if you kiss her?
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (25 July 2010):
 WOAH.6 months and not ready for kissing? Most people do that before they are going out!OK, waiting 6+ months to have sex is one thing, but to wait that long for kissing, especially at your age, quite frankly, is really taking it to extremes.We all need physical signs of affection to feel loved. Kissing makes us feel wanted and appreciated. The fact that you don't want to kiss your girlfriend, well how do you think that makes her feel? She's probably surprised you're with her at all. If you take everything too slowly, you will miss out on a lot of the pleasures of life and youth. They will pass you by really quickly. I'm not telling you to rush into sex but, if you carry on as slowly as you are now, you might not ever have kids.There's this myth that kissing is really hard and you have to know exactly what to do or have practice to get it right but that's not true. Kissing just kinda happens - as long as you don't bash teeth or do the "washing machine" (round in circles) then it will just happen.If you carry on this slowly, girls won't hang around for you. We all need physical attention to feel loved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): You'll learn by kissing her though!!! Just go for it. Your building it up to be much more than it is
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): Well 6 months is pretty long without even a kiss but you should just tell her how you feel about it but if its that long I think you should just kiss, even if its only a small kiss then its still happened, you gotta see it from her point of view or explain the reasons xx
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (25 July 2010):
 u guys have been together for 6 months i'm pretty sure she wouldnt break up wit u because u kissed her..obviously u mean alot to her..the experiance means nothing no one can tell whos experianced and who isnt when u kiss..and u cant mess a kiss up just go for it!
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