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My girlfriend says she can't handle me not making her happy!

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Question - (25 February 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 26 February 2011)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My girlfriend and i have been dating now for almost 3 years we have an apt together and just recently she said she cant handle me not making her happy..i love her to death and this is all my fault she says she needs space to think if she can give me another chance. i know i need to work on my problems of not showing her i love her and i dont know how to change Ive got no help from my friends or family at this point im all alone and i want another chance cause she is my world and i cant live without her. we grew up together, and im afraid to hear her say im done. i basically dont know what to do right now. there is a knife in my gut and everyday i dont hear from her it gets deeper. please help me!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011):

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When I moved out I took all of our pics off the wall. And I went back today to get one last thing and they were all up again and that gives me hope. I know she wants her space but I can’t help but want to send her flowers with a card..already wrote a poem the best of my ability but everyone I talk to is telling me I need to wait for her to call me,,,and that she needs to miss me..if I call or do stuff like that I’m afraid I will push her away. She always makes me happy and every second I’m with her is amazing!!! I can’t win and I’m losing hope.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (25 February 2011):

Wake up buddy - it's not your job to make her happy, it's both of your jobs (that's how couples work). She can't just lay the blame at your door. This is the mating call of the Drama Queen, and I think you're overlooking a great many problems that this girl most likely has.

Yes you can live without her - she isn't helping you to understand, and she's laying blame at your door. Someone who loves you doesn't do that. Someone who's out to use you will. She's out to use you and get what she wants. She's not out for you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011):

The way u feel right now maybe the way she is feeling and that's not a good thing woman need lot of attention we want to know we are loved and not have to guess the best thing right now would be give her space and maybe send her some flowers so she knows u care write her a poem but don't just give up if she loves u she will come around

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