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writes: OK. I am a 16 year old boy. I've been with my girlfriend who is also 16 for almost 4 months. I love her very much and she loves me too and I have no doubt in my mind. We have a mild Long distance aspect to our relationship because her family has a summer house here and that's how we met. She doesn't live that far away. Well I hadn't seen her for 1.5 weeks, she ditched me to go to a movie with her friends on 11/23/05. Well I was very hurt and I talked with her about it and she just sprang it on me that she likes to be alone sometimes. I don't know why we need to fight for her to express herself honestly. Anyway then we made up and had a great conversation on 11/24. Then she ditched me again on 11/25! I don't know what to do. I don't want to pursue her because I do have self respect and I feel like I should dump her but I love her so much that I can't fathom actually doing it. I feel like she doesn't deserve to be with me but I want to be with her sooooo bad still. I'm not going to call her and I think I'm not going to answer if she calls me. I don't know what to do because she is less than ten miles away and we may never get a chance like this again for months. Please someone help me. My parents told me she wants me to "chase" her because girls want to feel like they have casted a spell over their guy so he'll do anything. But that if I do call her she'll be bored with me because once she knows that the "spell" is working she'll have nothing to work for. Is she just looking for a challenge? Should I call her? Does this mean she wants to break up with me? If she calls me should I ignore her? Please help me! Thanks, Wyatt Jarvis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2005):
Your parents could be right but there isnt enough information to tell. Go to the library or bookstore and check out "The Rules" by Ellen Fein (you can skim it and get the gist in about 20 minutes) and you should be able to tell if she is running a silly game.
I really do think people need their own seperate space so I am not going to fault her there. The thing to do would be to have a conversation where you tell her what bothers you and the kind of relationship you would like to have and then see if you can agree that in the future you will both act the way you discuss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2005): I know what you'r going through mate. My girlfriend done the same to me. I found out over an email that she accidently sent to me rather than her friend that shes been texting some other guy. Anyway, i asked her about it and she told me it was a guy from school (i dont go to school any more and never went to her school either, we, like u, have a mildly long distance relationship, and only see each other at the weekends. ive been with her for 2 years, since we were 16) who had feelings for her. She told me she texted him telling him she'll be his friend but she has a boyfriend and nothing will ever happen between them. Anyway, me (being stupid and over protective that i am), argued with her about it and blah blah, im not gona go in2 detail, it'll take far too long to type out. Anyway, for a while, i texted her saying 'im sorry. I miss you. Ive been so stupid. Are you ok baby? I really love you. i cant live without you' because she had spoken of ending it. But she didnt text back, she didnt let me know how she felt. Anyway, i thaught 'forget it'. I didnt dump her, but i didnt text her or call her. It took a couple of days but she started spilling her feelings out to me, telling me how much she loves me and all that, and now we have a fantastic relationship. But whatever you do, when your girl comes running back to you, dont do that same thing she done to you. dont not text her back and all that. We're more mature than that.Scott, Scotland
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2005): whatever you do, don't chase her.. leave it a while and she will come running back after you once she see's your fine without her! it may take a week or 2 but you'll see! women always come running back. Trust me on this!
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