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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my girlfriend around 9 months now and we are totally in love. However she has recently decided that she wants to go and work abroad for the summer for around 6 months (shes only 18 so wants to live her life a little which I understand) but the thought of her being away is killing me. I dropped hints that I didnt want her to go but she just says please dont make me choose between you and going away. I'll miss her like crazy when she goes and dont even know if I can cope. My only real options are try and stick it out (which I'm not sure I can do), finish with her and try to get over her (which I'm not sure I can do), or say we'll go on a break until she comes back (then I have to live with the thought that she'll probably be seeing other guys). I totally trust her but if she goes to work away somewhere with temptation all around her its a whole different ball game. Anyway been in this situation or got any ideas what I could do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007): i totaly understand were ur coming frm m8 i was in a similar position. My advice if she really wants to go she's going to go regardless so why not be happy for her and make sure when she leaves ur on good terms with her so things may get restarted in 6 months.
Also u wrote "I'll miss her like crazy when she goes and dont even know if I can cope". Whoa dude u need to get ur life back dont put all ur happiness on one person thats way too risky!!!
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reader, x..HelpfulWun..x +, writes (20 January 2007):
 You Obviously cnnot trust her.
she going away to work, i understand why you might think this but i personally think you should ask to have a break. you cannot have a long distance relationship for 6mnths. and since your girl is 19yrold she needs to live her life. let do that a rejoin again when she comes back.
sorry to be such a party pooper
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reader, cd206 +, writes (20 January 2007):
 There's temptation all around her wherever she is. You seem to have this idea that abroad is full of all these exotic men that are better than you. They aren't. You shouldn't make her try and choose. This could be the best experience of her life and it's not up to you to deny her that. If you can trust her now there's no reason why you shouldn't be able to trust her somewhere else.
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