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*aurean
writes:My girlfriend of 1 yr now who is 11yrs my junior had an affair with a married man when she was still married few yrs back. Her then husband was a womanizer and thats when she git involved with this sweet talking guy who happens to be her ex husband's friend, their relationship lasted for about a year after which she decided to stop the affair co of the fact that the guy was already using her for financial gain.My question is: I get jealous not of her ex husband but of that guy whom she had an affair with. I feel that she loves him a lot for her to go into that kind of hide and seek relationship. My girlfriend has been honest with me anout this because I ask her so many questions about her past. I would even ask her to tell me in detail how they had sex etc... Then I will get hurt. Why do I ask questions knowing I will get hurt? And why do I get hurt about her past which didnt even involved me? Im so desperate for anawers please because I keep on getting these images in my head about their sexual escapades before. I know its unfair for my girlfriend to use her honesty against her knowing that I was not the one she cheated on.Help me please find some answers.Thanks you.TAUREAN
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reader, Pucktie215  +, writes (30 December 2012):
I have to ask, did she confess all this to you or did you find out on your own?
My recent ex (I broke up with her) had an affair in her recent past. Same scenario too. She was married to a cheater and had that married guy friend that was "there for her"!
They had an affair and his wife never found out. This scumbag still hangs out with her ex/husband and they go fishing together.
My ex lied and never told me. I met this guy and had a bad vibe. I snooped and got the truth. I don't want to hear from women who say snooping was wrong either. I had Man's intuition. I knew something was off and got my answers.
Does your gf talk to this guy still? How did you find out about her affair?
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reader, Tampababy46 +, writes (17 August 2012):
You shouldn't judge her so harshly on her past. People make mistakes and learn from them every single day.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (17 August 2012):
 I must use this classic line dont judge me. but really past is sometimes repeated what would you aspect if he knew of your past and judge you
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (17 August 2012):
 Let the past bury its dead. This is something that is not really terribly relevant nor helpful for your relationship TODAY. learn to live in the present, and appreciate your girl for HERSELF NOW, not for who she was before you met her. It takes real strength to do that, but you will both be the happier for it.
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