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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 months, we broke up before but we got back together again 3 years later. When we got back together she already had 1 daughter with her ex-boyfriend but I'm okay with the fact that she has a kid. The first couple months was great but then we started arguing a lot, mostly about my past. Not just that, we seem to argue a lot about other stuff too, we argue 2-4 times a week. I was gay and had sex with men before but now I really want this relationship to work and I really love her. She was very concerned with the facts that I've had sex with men and she's disgusted by the idea. I'm pretty sure I'm not gay anymore, at least I'm trying not to be. She's very disturbed by the idea and I don't know what to do. I know it's hard for her but she should be acceptable of past like I accepted hers. I don't know what to do and I don't wanna break up with her. What to do. What to do. :(
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (13 August 2011):
 Tell your girlfriend that it hurts you that she can't accept your past and that you would like it if she would or if she doesn't bring it up again negatively. Everyone has a past and who we are as a person shouldn't be based on just that. If she can't get over this or stop making a big deal about it, then maybe you should be with someone else. Who knows how long you'll be with her, but since you are, she needs to accept your past and everything that makes you who you are. If she doesn't, then you won't be that happy.
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