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writes:Hi Im 19 and my gf is 19, she broke with her bf a few months back now. She thinks she is pregnant as she has missed her period....If she does become pregnant I will want to bring up the child as my own and the real farther will not want to see the child...Is that a bit wrong for me to take the daddy role?
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reader, xmeganx +, writes (11 December 2007):
 If you want to be then go for it.. as long as you've thought it through properly..... But if the real dad did want to be involved (which i reckon really he should have that choice) then you can still support your gf and the baby as a family.. but cant deny the baby of its real dad. Unless of course he is unfit to look after the child....
She could put your name on the birth certificate, but really thats up to her, you and the real father
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reader, maggie1987 +, writes (6 December 2007):
 well if she broke up with her ex a few months ago then if its his baby she would have missed more than one period as she broke up with him a few month back then that means she wouldnt have had sex with him for a few month so if it was his baby she would be a couple of months pregnant by now and she would definatley know if she was pregnant or not so why dont u ask her how it could be her ex's. and no it woodnt be wrong but if the real father wanted to see the baby then he would have every right so you have to be careful incase you end up the one thats hurt
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reader, leonard j, Douglas  +, writes (6 December 2007):
Why don't the two of you spend more time together before you think about becoming the child's father. A father or mother in name,won't cut it. as there are lots of fathers and mothers who are anything but that. So give your relationship a try first,and also learn to love the child,if and when it arrives. But you'll first need to learn how to love each other .
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): You are both quite young are you sure you want to be a father to another mans child? what happens when her ex finds out this is his child? Are you sure it isnt your child? There are a lot of things to look at before you step into those shoes. There will be a lot of unrest in the future when the real father finds out. Does he know now? Be prepared for a bumpy ride. What does your gf want? Please consider all that she says and asks for.
take care
xx
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (6 December 2007):
 "Hi Im 19 and my gf is 19, she broke with her bf a few months back now. She thinks she is pregnant as she has missed her period"You might be getting ahead of yourself here. She could just be late? My ex used to say this every month and sure enough everything was fine.In my honest opinion this should be discussed with the real father if she IS pregnant and IF it hasn't already. I know if I had a kid I'd want to know about it and it's my right as the father.However, if the ex-bf knows and wants nothing to do with the child then that's irresponsible and COMPLETELY OUT OF ORDER.You've only been together a few months and you are prepared to commit to spending the next 20 odd years together? I agree with deejuliet, that would be unfair to the child... If it didn't work out then what? What if the REAL father changed his mind and actually WANTED to see his own kid? Would you stop him?Very complicated. If I were you I'd wait and see - she might not be pregnant and if she is, if it were me, I'd back off or be a friend.
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reader, Megan Deetes +, writes (6 December 2007):
 If i were you i'd support her while she was pregnant but you have to consider the baby and whether you could stay by her for the 18 years of the childs life, not only emotionaly but financialy too could you rent a place? Buy enough food, baby products etc etc etc are you emotionaly mature enough and most of all do you love her enough?
Think carefully about your decision and if you need further help message me :) xxxxxx
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 I would really advise against this. You have only been with her a few months yourself and really cant make that kind of long term, life changing commitment. You dont really know yet that you are going to want to spend the next 18 or more years with this woman. That would be unfair to the child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): A few months back and she might be pregnant with his baby now?
Has she missed her last few periods or just the last one? Because if it's the last few then ok. But if only the last one then unless she slept with him in the last month then it can't be his.
And how long have you been with her? Are you sure you want to settle down forever with her and bring up someone elses child as yours if you've only been with her for a few months. It's a lifetime commitment and unless your sure you can be with her forever (how could you be after being with her for a few months) it isn't a good idea.
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