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writes:Hey everyone, I've just started going out with a girl that has had a much more "Exciting" life in the past compared to me. She's had so much more sex partners (i've only had sex with one previous girlfriend whereas she has had loads of one night stands). She's been on loads of drunken holidays with her mates (i've been on one) and has thrown loads of parties just for the fun of it!Until now i thought i had a pretty good balance between fun/work in my life but now i don't know what to think, i don't know if im jeleous of her or if i feel she's just too different to me and it will not work long-term? By the way I'm 20yrs old and at uni.what shall i do....?1) Dump her, find someone less outgoing that i can see me being in a long-term relationship with.2) Stay with her, enjoy her company n have some fun, knowing that i cant see myself in long-term relationship with her (well at the moment anyway).3) Not bother having a relationship with anyone, live the uni life get drunk and have random one night stands and live the "exciting" life, like she has done! Would love to hear ur opinion!
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reader, Steve169 +, writes (22 January 2007):
 Heya I'm 17 and have a gf who is 18 and has had a far more fun life than me.
I too am constantly jealous of her far more interesting past, however I've allowed her to introduce me to various things that I felt ok doing and had great fun doing.
I'm constantly feeling as if i dont match her social ability/experience. But it doesnt matter as it's so much fun being with her.
So if you think the relationship could develop, stick around, take the good bits of her experience and learn from her. If you're worried about sex, then just keep varying what you do, find out what she likes!
If you want the exciting life (like option 3) you could just swap one-nighters for daring. Uni is a great place for a daring sex life, there are lot's of opportunities, take them, i'm sure your gf will help with ideas.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 I would really not recommend option 3. It sounds rather meaningless to someone like you who seems to have their head in the right place.
Option 1 is also a bit hasty, no? The fact that she hooked up with someone more "stable" is something one could possibly interpret as her being tired of all the one-night adventures with the opposite sex. And throwing parties is something you could do together, if you want to.
Maybe if she's a very social person and you are more of an introverted person the relationship won't work out, but maybe you'll be surprised and you will both learn something from each other.
I wish you the best of luck, which ever way you decide to go.
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