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writes: My friends seem to not take what I say seriously- when I tell them something they kind of brush me off or not take what I say to heart. Maybe I'm being too sensitive, but it feels like they don't really care about me or my life. But then when they have a problem, they come running to me. My one friend was talking about me to another friend, but she also is the same person to call me when she needs someone to talk or when she is upset. I just feel like they only want me there when they need my help, otherwise they could care less. They may do so jokingly or maybe I'm just being too sensitive, but why do they make fun of me but then call me when they have a problem? Are they using me or am I just being overly sensitive/needy? Reply to this Question
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (12 December 2009):
I dont think its that you are too sensitive, it is more likely that they are just insensitive. How do I know this without hearing examples of the things you get upset about and they dont take seriously? well, you said they go behind your back and talk about you and make fun of you- that says right there that they are insensitive to yours and other peoples feelings. However at the same time, they know that you are acaring and sensitive person, so when the time suits them, they will use you for advice and so on because they know that you will be able to care and listen.
My advice, is to find new friends. You could try and make it work with these frineds but honestly, people dontreally change that often, especially when the problem is a part of who they are- such as being insensitivie to others feelings.
If you tried to tell them how you feel to fix the situation most liekly they wont understand. So myadvice is to cut down on th time you see wit hthem or cut them out of your life altogether and find some other friends who care about other people apart from themselves.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (12 December 2009):
I don't know...it might be helpful if you gave a few examples. You know how catty girls can be, and they probably do like you--but there are some friends that I have that I feel that they worry over stupid things and put themselves in stupid situations that I'm tired of hearing of because I start to think that they keep putting themselves there and it's their own fault. So if you're one of those types of people, then it could be what the problem is. It's not that I don't like those couple of friends, I just wish they would get a clue.
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