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writes:Hi everyone, I have another problem similar to my last question. My friend's (same friend from before) boyfriend asked me out and i don't want to tell her because it will break her heart. But I am scared if I don't she will get more hurt and blame me. I already made the choice not to tell her i like her boyfriend but i am scared it might ruin our friendship!!What can I do?! Reply to this Question
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reader, princessgabby +, writes (3 March 2011):
princessgabby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I told her and she believed me!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (27 November 2010):
 Honey I am SO glad to hear that you value your friend very much. Boys are a dime a dozen when you're in high school. You know I couldn't tell you how many times guys will break your heart and your friend will always be there for you. Guys will come and go, especially this one. In fact it's really snakey of him to try to ask you out. Really tells you a lot about him.
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reader, sarahlynn +, writes (27 November 2010):
 honesty is always the best answer: what would you do if you were in her shoes? just tell her that you love her and that he asked you out and if she doesn't believe you then are you really friends? Trust is number one in any relationship: even friendship. And so she should trust that you would tell her the truth. If you do have a secret crush on him, that is not going to hurt her unless you go through with it: so don't. If she confronts him, and he says something like," hey, she asked me out" and your friend believes that, then you know that it is time to move on to greener pastures. I have had a very close friend, and we were very honest to each other and had a great relationship: we just got older and have our own families now. So it is up to you to decide what you are going to do: are you going to be honest and maybe risk a friendship or are you going to hurt your friend and risk your morality?
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reader, princessgabby +, writes (27 November 2010):
princessgabby is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontennisstar88 Thank-you for that. I do not plan on asking him out or excepting his "invite". I would never be able to do that to my friend!
Even though I know she would believe me I am not going to tell her because it will make her upset and i hate seeing my friends sad :(
Thank-you sooo much!!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (27 November 2010):
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-like-one-of-my-best-friends-guys.html
For a little background..
Again in your last post, you know that if you go out with this guy you will lose your friendship. Why is he even asking you out when he's not even broke up with your friend? Basically he's asking you to cheat. So what to do...
Here are your options:
-tell your friend that her boyfriend asked you out.
a. She will either get mad at you and won't believe you potentially ending your friendship.
b. Or she will get mad at her boyfriend and dump him. (He may dump her first) However, you won't be able to date him until she gets over him.
-Don't tell her and wait till he dumps her
a. Then you can go out with him but you're going to lose your friend.
b. Or not go out with him and keep your friendship but wait till she gets over him. Who knows how long that will be and he may move on to another chick.
You're going to have to ask yourself is going out with this guy worth losing a friendship over? Who's to say he won't do the same thing to you down the road? Then you've lost a boyfriend and a friend.
Guys come and go but your friends will stay around. At your age, friendships are very valuable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): You should tell you're friend that her boyfriend isn't being faithful to her. Don't you think that she deserves to be with someone who wants to be with her? I'm sorry that you like him, but honestly it will cause more trouble if you do go out with him. You definitely need to talk to your friend about the whole situation. It will be hard, but she needs to know the truth. Things will only get worse if you hold out on the information any longer.
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