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writes:ok.. so i have this friend of mine hes awesome we hangout like twenty times a week with my brother sometimes without him everything is alright but theres three problems his ex wife has a drug problem and he to has a drug problem i know its none of my business but i care for theses two /: oh they also have 1 daughter together thats taken from them and in foster care after they move to my street things got alittle better hes now working and he got himself checked he stayed sobber but now shes pregnant again only problem shes not quiting her drug habbits what should they do??im trying to be a good friend hangout seems to work for him it keeps his mind off of it but besides the point his soon to be ex wife the lady thats carring his baby again has more issuesthen just drug habbits shes also controling and abusive honestllyi told him to get some help and away from her or if he wants herso badly then i guess get her ass fixed before continue there relationship but im not his mom im just a caring friend i justdont want to see them getting killed by drug stuff /:she does heroine cocane all sorts but not weed ;o
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 September 2014):
 You can't fix this for him. I know that you want to. But there is no magic fix to "curing" an addict.
You have told him to seek help, he isn't ready. And until HE hits rock bottom, he might never be ready.
As for his soon-to-be-pregnant-ex-wife, it's really not her fault that he has chosen drugs again. Drug addicts are drawn to each other, no matter how miserable they make each other, because they SHARE the need for drugs.
Personally, I'd step away, and try and get my brother to do that same. The guy might be a good guy deep down, but he has chosen drugs for now. He knows his life is messed up, and he dulls that knowledge with drugs.
I feel bad for that baby. It's going to have a rough start in life.
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