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writes:A while ago, my best friend of 12 years slept with my long term boyfriend. I broke up with him, but eventually forgave her. More recently, she slept with a different ex of mine, who she knew I still loved and cared deeply for. She said it was a drunken mistake on both of their behalf's. She is begging for me to forgive her, and her apologies do seem sincere, but I don’t know what to do. She is meant to be the one person who doesn’t hurt me, yet she does it time and time again. Is it time I just walk away and forget her?
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reader, MassagePS  +, writes (5 February 2011):
Betrayed trust is harder to win back than climing a tall building.
Forgiving her is certainly necessary but your eyes HAVE been opened and you have been warned.
Keep your "distance"...I'd be careful about how close you let her in to your private life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for all of your advice. I think I'm going to distance myself for the time being, mull it over, and then decide if I can forgive her again - or not.
Thanks again.
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reader, darkeyedgirl  +, writes (1 July 2010):
I always endorse forgiveness, but you have done this once before. I wouldn't call anyone who thinks so little of causing you pain a true friend.
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reader, QZ +, writes (1 July 2010):
 Is she really that good of a friend if she's slept with your boyfriend AND your ex?
Food for thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): As the saying goes,'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.' Your "friend" can't be trusted and friendship is based on trust. It is best to just cut all ties and move on. You deserve better people in your life!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (1 July 2010):
 If I was drunk off my ass, I still wouldn't touch a friends boyfriend with a 39 and a half foot pole. And she's done this not once, but twice?!?
Well, since I don't know her, your boyfriend, your ex or you, I feel like this is really your call. But if you do accept her friendship, I would distance yourself quite a bit - she's not someone you can trust at all. Good luck, sweetness and I'm sorry!
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