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My friend might be sending nudes

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Question - (21 September 2014) 5 Answers - (Newest, 22 September 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

So recently a new boy came to our school, the reason he came was because he got expelled from his old school for screenshotting a girls nudes and showing them to all his mates. The only problem is... He's quite good looking. My friend is a bit of a slag and posts pictures with her bum sticking out and her boobs pushed up so naturally she gets lots of male attention. She fancys this new guy and he likes her back however he hasn't made his move... Yet... I'm worried that if they do go out will she send him nudes? Would he screenshot them? There are also rumours going around that she sent a picture of her in a thong to a guy from another school and rumours he sent a nude back. I don't know wether to talk to her about it or not?! I need your help!!! Despite all this my friend is really lovely and gorgeous so please, no hate on her. Thanks! x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2014):

Um, sage old guy and whencowsattack, did you guys READ the post?

At no point did she say she liked this guy or was giving him any leeway on account that he is "good looking."

She is concerned about her friend who has a crush on this guy.

NOT HERSELF.

She pointed out that he is good looking because despite his behavior and his past actions, he apparently can get away with alot and can certainly charm the females simply because of his good looks. A reflection of our society at large, not just herself.

Now to answer your question, I would talk to your friend. Let her know you are concerned she might do something that she will later regret and warn her that she should be careful. It is best to get it off your chest and give her advice to possibly stop her from doing something foolish. You should definitely talk to her.

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A female reader, WhenCowsAttack United States +, writes (22 September 2014):

There are millions of good looking guys on this planet.

A lot of them aren't even assholes.

Why are you wasting your time thinking about this particular guy, again?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2014):

the issue is that you like this guy and accept his behaviour because hes fit...

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (22 September 2014):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntThe "issue" is THIS (which you wrote): "...The only problem is... He's quite good looking."

Now, WHY..... would you give this guy a "pass" for acting like an a$shole..... just because "he's quite good looking"?????????

Do yourself a favor.... and stay away from this creep... and let your "tart" girlfriends compromise THEIR principles for him.... AND, later on, you can act smug because YOU don't have to apologize for ANYTHING that you did for and with this cretin....

Good luck....

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (22 September 2014):

Honeypie agony auntHonestly, it seems to be the norm for MANY teenage girls to post "provocative" pictures or as I call it "the mistake of your life"...

The fact that her parents either condone this, or are totally ignorant of what she puts on her FB/social site is another part. She wants attention, ANY attention.

In Australia a buch on GROWN MEN - made a slutshaming Facebook page - basically calling out a BUNCH of 12 year old GIRLS for posting suggestive/provocative pictures. You think that couldn't happen is the US? or the UK?

I would simply talk to her. Tell her that you get the fact that she wants to look hot (who doesn't?) but that she might want to consider whatever she put out there on the internet and sends on her phone of pictures CAN be USED for anything. Even IF her FB page/social website is "private" there is NO real privacy on the internet. ANYONE who gets caught possessing these pictures (every DUDE/CHICK, no matter his/her age who DOWNLOADS her pictures) are in violation of the law for CHILD PONOGRAPHY. SHE can get in trouble for SENDING these pictures as she is DISTRIBUTING CHILD PORNOGRAPHY.

But you can't MAKE her stop. All you can do is try and get her to use a little common sense. Ask her, what would your parents do/say if they saw these pictures? Would you be OK with them seeing these pictures?

As for hating on her? That would be ridiculous. It's just sad to see that kids your age think that sending pictures is harmless. And more so, that they think they HAVE to impress guys with these kind of pictures.

If she thinks you are telling her this because you are jealous, I suggest you let it go, BUT YOU take a lesson from this.

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