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*nordinary
writes:I'm in love with a friend.. who views me as a friend. I know that my friend loves me a lot.. But its just a friend/family type of love on their end. How am I supposed to deal with that? I've thought about ending the friendship.. That would really hurt us both. We have an amazing friendship. We both always say that we are each other's only true friend. I just don't know what to do because if I continue the friendship, my feelings may get deeper and I will still end up hurt because I am in love with someone who doesn't view me the same way.So, What do I do? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, Unordinary +, writes (19 April 2012):
Unordinary is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello everyone...I stuck it out! And I think I'm over the crush I had on my friend... I believe it was just a phase.Thank you everyone for all of your help!
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (5 April 2012):
 I've been where you are and I still am. I fell in love with mine 1-2 years ago. I finally told him how I felt a few months ago and it was one of the most relieving and comfortable conversations I had. I told him and things didn't get awkward, he just said we should stay friends because we're each other's best friend and he wouldn't want to lose me. I do think that if we weren't so close that we might be together. I'm trying to get over him, but sometimes it just gets so hard and I don't know how to handle it. I thought about separating from him, but I know that would hurt me tremendously. I'm going to stay his best friend and get over him in my own time, like iAmHereToHelpYou suggested. It's going to be very hard, but I know that one day I'll have someone that's not my best friend, but just as amazing and I'll be happy. Keep that in mind for yourself and do what's best for you.
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reader, Unordinary +, writes (5 April 2012):
Unordinary is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSort of.. But not fully. Ive hinted at it.. And the response wasnt really rejecting.
But, we're so close and know eachother so well.. Im pretty sure its obvious.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 April 2012):
 Have you told your friend how you feel?
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reader, daniellelovesu +, writes (5 April 2012):
Hiya :)
Ok -the answer is very simple... tell him (or her). I KNOW it's hard and I am 20 so I have been through this. Honey you need to confess your feeling. If they don't love you back- well then it's tough on them, it's their loss and I am sure your a very sweet girl. Turn your swag on and STAY friends because you will feel even more heart- broken if you break the great friendship you have now. If y'all are close then your friend should be able to understand. If not - again it's their loss ;) good luck and all the best
Danielle xx
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