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writes:i need some advice on where to go from here. i have a good friend who we'll call barbara. she lies about absalutely everything. the amount of illnesses that she has had. she said she completely recovered from MS which I'm almost 100% positive you can't do. she said her ex boyfriend who was sixteen moved to spain died of cancer and then left in his will 3 children the eldest being 5 when he died to her. she was 13. there is no way he could have left three children to her in a will. she also said she has IBS. she lied to us about who her real dad is and her real sister. she said her cousin died. aparently shes been pregnant twise. had an abortion once and the foetus turned into an ulcer the next and also she was going to have the ulcer one transferred into another womans womb before she found out what it was. she said that the day her ex dies of cancer there was also a cot death of his girlfrends child on the same day. she said her friend from her old school died from a drugs overdose. and that anoter friend died from choking.theres this boy that she KEEPS mentioning saying hes her boyfriend or he loves her and stuff, he has bebo but only has her as a friend on it and nobody else apart from one of "barbaras friends". there are so many i cant name them all.me and my friend are going insain over all these lies. were really fed up with it. we dont know whether or not to say something to her about it because it might cause another huge argument (i approached her about it once and it blew up completely)... we really dont know what to do her lies are getting sicker and sicker.someone help
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): I have a friend just like that but again not nearly as extreme. I haven't yet took her up on it but lately her lies have led to being flat out cruel about things. Don't let your friend get that far! If you tell her now what you think she will slowly stop. I didn't and now my chances of staying friends are slim. Don't lose a friend if you don't have to but don't get hurt trying to show them what you need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): I lived with a compulsive liar for 10 years and left him 6 months ago.I have 2 beautiful children from him and unfortuantly because of these I still have contact with him. He has lied about his family , his age, I know nothing about him apart from what he has told me!! I met a man recently who knows him and he said 'of all the men in Munich why do you choose him' I never questioned it as my ex partner had told him 10 mins earlier 'do not tell her anything' I had been with this man all those years. When I first met him 3 people said to me 'don't believe a word he says' but love is blind and I put this to the back of my mind. I have never met his family or seen a picture of them. I could write a book on his lies. although not together he is still telling them and whats frustrating about it all is that they think you are stupid!
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reader, huneygyrl +, writes (10 December 2007):
"Barbara" has a serious problem. If she's such complusive liar, why is she considered a "good friend"? Good friends don't lie to you.
Those lies are extremely hurtful.
Anyhow, talk to her about it. She's wasting time lying to people.
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reader, Oddball.x  +, writes (10 December 2007):
 I have a friend tha also lies. Her lies arnt as extreme but what I reccomend is that you do comfront her again and tell her you know she is lying and that you dont really want a friend like that.Or you could choose not to listen to her or make up things like that so she knows how it feels.But I think the first option applies as best.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): Hi there,I had this same problem with a close friend of mine a few months back. He's an OBVIOUS compulsive liar and just like your friend, the lies he would tell others and myself were incredably far fetched. We all knew all these things he would tell us wern't true. Like his father was constantly stalking and trying to kill him after a messy divorce with his mother, etc. We all tried to ignore these lies but after a while we decided enough was enough. I suggest you at least try what we tried; challenge her. If she makes up an obvious lie, question it, don't be frank and tell her "You're lying. That's not true." ask her questions about her current scenario that would be challenging to answer unless what she was saying was true. Eventually she will get tired of having to think fast and explain herself constantly and hopefully the lies will stop.If your friend catches on and accuses you of calling her a liar simply tell her "No, I believe you, I'm just interested." It's worth a shot. It worked for us, our friend still tells the odd obvious lie but he's no where near as bad as he used to be. I hope this helps as I know how difficult coping witha compulsive liar can be, especilly one you care a great deal about.L xox
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): everyone lies about things that arent true and twists stories a bit, but thats ridiculous.
You have to speak to her about it, she knows shes doing wrong.
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