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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, I recently found out that one of my closest friends is in love with me. I've known for a while that she'd liked me, but I had no idea that her feelings were as strong as she explained to me. She went on and on, telling me that she doesn't want to be with anyone else but me, and that she'd never hurt me. And while this is all very cool, we're both girls. I'm not gay, and she is. She knows that I'm not into girls, but insists on pushing me and pushing me to give her a chance. She thinks that I'll never be happy with a guy, and that she'd make me happy. I just do not feel the same way at all. I already know that I don't have feelings for her whatsoever. Now we're not talking because she said that she can't take just being friends. I've already considered giving her a chance, and I don't want to do that. I tried to let her down easily, but that didn't work. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): I think you did the right thing by letting her down easy. You shouldnt be pushed into a relationship that you dont want to be in. But if you still want her as a friend then you should give her time to cool down and try talking to her. Ask questions. Try to talk to her and let her know that you are just her friend and you werent trying to be mean.
Plus after you said no and she kept pushing you to go out with out her, why would she want to be in a relationship knowing that it was forced if you would have happened to cave in and say yes?
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