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writes:Ok here it goes I'm a bi male and nobody knows not even my best friends. So I'm at the mall the other day with a friend of mine just walking around and I see A guy walking towards us. I can't help but to stare at him. He was so beautiful and was wearing flip flops. To which is a big plus lol my friend I guess saw me Looking at him cuz I Heard him say are you checking Him out? I acted like I didn't hear him and we continued through the mall I saw this guy. Like 2 more times and again caught my self staring discreetly at him. I don't kno if o should just come out and tell my friends I'm bi or just let it go..
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): nothing vventured nothing gained. but take it slow
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): The best thing to do is prolly tell a freind you realy trust. And just start telling freinds from there. Its gonna be hard to tall you're freinds. But you'll get through it and move on.but Aye!! I had to do the same. But it was in a harder way.
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reader, heartfullalove  + ♥, writes (9 July 2009):
 I think, unfortunately, the risks of telling your friends would outweigh the benefits. The adolescent male schoolroom is a very homophobic environment, where the pressure is immense to not only be seen to be straight, but also to make it clear you're homophobic yourself (just in case people start to suspect you're not straight!) At least, that was the case in my school.
Unless your school environment is radically different from mine, 'coming out' exposes you to not just the prospect of ridicule and bullying, it may also place pressure on your friends to stop being your friends, because they're then terrified people might think THEY'RE gay. Stupid and unfair, I know, but that's the way it is.
I was identified by more or less everyone in my school as 'queer' by the age of about 14-15 - I couldn't hide it, everything from my voice to the way I walk, talk and move my hands pretty much gave the game away. It led to a lot of bullying, torment and even a beating, and the experience isn't something I'd want anyone else to have to go through if they can avoid it.
If you're absolutely desperate to get these feelings off your chest and tell someone about it, be very careful who you confide in. (Girls may be more sympathetic than your average teenage boy, but even still, be very careful!)
And when you're checking out gorgeous guys in the mall, do your best to be discreet about that too, no matter how hot they are!
I know it seems a lifetime away, but in a few years you'll be able to be much more open about your sexuality, and it really is worth the wait.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): im a bi female and i have found that there are alot of people who dont like it at all so i have only told my very close friends.....like my best friend of 9 years and my best guy friend of 8 years (then a few people in between)
i belive it works better that way.
its nobodys business but it does help to have a few people who understand.
good luck X
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reader, DearCassy  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 You should only say anything about this matter if you're completely comfortable doing so.No matter who they are,even if they are your best friends,don't feel that just because they are,that you have to tell them everything.They could turn their backs on you just because you're bi.You know how some kids are,once they find out they have a gay or bi friend,they want nothing to do with them cause they think their friend has a crush on them.Or your friends can just listen to what you have to tell them and not see it as a big deal or concern,like they should,seeing that they're your best friends.If you feel comfortable saying anything about this,or feel you MUST come out with it,then you could tell them.Or if you see it as no big deal,then you can keep it to yourself.Just because they're your best friends doesn't mean they have to know absolutely everything about you.Hope I helped.xx
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reader, Odiewoof  +, writes (9 July 2009):
It shouldn't matter if you are or not... They SHOULD understand if they're true mates. To be honest i'd keep it a bit... "Low" but it's really your choice.
-Peace
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): I am also bi, but female. I think that if you truely believe you are bi [btw very confusing lol] But if u do 100% think you are, then I should tell your friends. I told mine and they are completely supportive of me and my choices. Im sure if you have good friends and do trust them, you should tell them! I am now in a relationship with a girl, and telling my friends was the best thing to do. I really think that if you have good, trust-worthy friends then I think you should tell them. Maybe just a few close ones first though. See what they say. Hope I helped.
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