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writes:I am 39 years old, never been married and just recently was contacted by my first boyfriend from highschool. We live very far apart and have been trying to get together for over a year. I date but can't seem to get him off my mind. We talk quit often and it seems and he says that we have established some sort of relationship between each other but until we meet will we both know if there is chemistry. I am trying to be smart about it all but feel like I am spinning out of control. We just decided that we would make a plan for a trip for me to come and see him but it scares me to death......I am afraid of what comes after the trip and we both connect. It will obviously be a long distance relationship and it scares me on how I can deal with that. Has anyone else been in this type of situation...I just need advice and good words to get me through this and calm my nerves....
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reader, cd206  +, writes (31 January 2007):
 There will always be a spark with your first boyfriend, whether things ended well between you or not. Remember how it felt to be in love that first time? It was so much more intense than any other time right? I think you go for it and meet up but... make sure he's not married before you pursue it. If he's not and you do end up falling for him all over again what's the problem?
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reader, xkimx +, writes (31 January 2007):
 that was years ago (no offence )i was probably just a little fling and he just wants to catch up with old times , but maybe he been thinking of you , what the hell take it and go see him life is to short to be waiting uv waited long enough
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reader, AskEve +, writes (30 January 2007):
 If you DON'T meet with him love you'll always wonder won't you so I say go for it! Life is too short and you'll only beat yourself up about this in years to come. He's right though, you do both seem to get along talking online or on the phone or whatever but until you actually stand there, face to face you won't know if there's real chemistry there.
There are questions that will need to be addressed though. If you did "connect" and it got serious, would you be willing to move there to be with him? Or would he with you?
Go and meet him first, don't be worried, be excited! Take it one step at a time and look on it as an adventure. If you feel you aren't right for one another then just have a great time hanging out with an old friend. I'm sure you'll know soon enough.
Eve
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