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My fiancee ran his hand down this girl's back at the bar he hangs out in... what does it mean!?

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Question - (21 January 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 21 January 2007)
A female , *ecca42478 writes:

What does it mean when you are out drinking at a bar with your fiance' that you are marrying in four months and you see him run his hand down another girls back as she is walking by? From top to bottom not touching her butt or anything? I know if a guy was rubbing his hand down my back as I walked by it would make me uncomfortable and feel like he's giving me a signal he's interested. What do you think? Guys, Girls? Am I wrong to think yucko!(I was introduced to her this same night after they hugged hello. Apparently she bartends where he eats lunch every Thursday. He goes there because his co-worker has a huge crush on her.I'm not threatened by her in the sense that if he did something with her it wouldn't be for anything other than the fact he would be a cheater, because yuck, she's seems trashy and like she has little self esteem if any. From meeting her it would seem that she would be the type that would suck someone off in the parking lot.) When I brought up the touching down the back thing he seems to think I'm way too unreasonably jealous. I am not feeling jealous more disgusted and suspicious. Because I don't understand that behavior, (wouldn't do it, wouldn't like it done to me)and when I asked him trying to understand he got angry and stormed off. At this time if he wanted to go there, I kind of feel like saying....have at it. I don't want to marry a sleeze anyway. Seriously, he seems to think I am wrong to say something when his actions or the actions of others makes me uneasy. Please advise....

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007):

Maybe his beer spilt over onto his hand and he was just wiping it on her! nah seriously dont worry too much if he keeps doing stuff like this then maybe be concerned.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (21 January 2007):

kenny agony auntYes this is a light flirtatious gesture, and it probably diden't mean anything. But i can totally see why you are annoyed by this hand down the back thing. However i don't think he is hiding anything as he did it in front of you, and i think if he wanted her he would have touched he in more suggestive areas, being the type of girl you say she is.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007):

i understand its not the best thing he cud have done...but if this is the only evidence u have of him being a "sleeze" maybe its a tad harsh.

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A female reader, Astrid Spain +, writes (21 January 2007):

Astrid agony auntMaybe he did it naturally without thinkin about it as he's accustomed to do it to u all the time, I wpouldn't be that mad at it, if he wanted to drop u he would

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A female reader, AngelofLove United Kingdom +, writes (21 January 2007):

AngelofLove agony auntI agree that is is a flirtatious gesture.

But it if possible that he saw no harm in that of only a way to call her attention.

I would not be happy if my partner did that either, and I would tell him so, tough if he did not like it.

However this is not enough evidence that he is a sleeze.

Sorry I could not help much.

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