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My father is selling his body!

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Question - (18 January 2012) 5 Answers - (Newest, 19 January 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, *he daughter writes:

i reently found out my father and his new girlfriends selling their bodies for sex on a website [name of website removed by mod]. its torn my family apart one of my brothers thinks the sun shines out of my fathers rear end and my sister is getting eaten up by it all. im just so mad i treid to get him to stop but he wont have none of it. i have three children that he has nothing to do with because hes too busy with his sex life and i just feel like exposing him?what should i do

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2012):

I'm not sure what you can do other than speak with him about how upset you are, and then distance yourself from him. This is not a mid life crisis- he is prostituting himself and other women and risking his health. Maybe he will then eventually make a choice that this is not the lifestyle for him and that he doesn't want to lose you and that he wants his grandchildren in his life.

I don't think you want your children to be around him and his gfs if they are doing this. As for telling your siblings that is up to you to decide.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (18 January 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntWhat your Father does in his own time is none of your's and your sister's business.... as long as it is not illegal.... or, does NOT affect you, directly....

Why not get a life of your own (and encourage your sister to do so, as well).... and let life go on....

Good luck, nosey....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2012):

Why are you and your sister being eaten by this? He's a grown man capable of making his own decisions in life. Has he suddenly become a bad person and started treating you both horribly because of this? Is it making him happy? What business is it of yours what he does in his private life? What good would exposing him do?

He's spent the past 20-30 years raising children, he's now in the middle of his life expressing his desires and freedoms as he wants, or he could be in the middle of a mid-life crisis who knows.

If you want him to spend more time with your kids that's fine talk to him. I really don't see what he's done wrong to you or what right you have to demand anything from him except that he remain being a good supportive father to you. This is none of your business, he is allowed to do what he wants as long as he doesn't hurt anyone else, and you and your sister feeling hurt is just a matter of difference of opinion, you don't agree with his lifestyle, that's fine, he's still your father and still deserves you love and respect because he's spent your entire life earning that has he not?

It's his life, he can't always live it only for you and you're an adult now and should respect his decisions if they make him happy and not try to dictate that he live within your strict moral framework. You're his daughter that's not how it works. Get over it OP, he's not hurting anyone, he's having lots of sex and getting paid for it too. That's not a bad deal for a middle-aged man.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy +, writes (18 January 2012):

Anonymous 123 agony auntSadly you cant do anything else, except completely detach yourself from your father's life.

All of us have choices that we make in life, sadly your father has chosen to make the wrong choices and refuses to change. What else can you do? Exposing him wont better the situation in ANY way, it wont affect him in the least, because a person who is afraid of the world getting to know his secret, would never go public on the internet.

Let him be, gather the rest of your family together, support each other and let your father be. You cannot change anything and its best if you keep out of this muck, because he's made it clear he's not going to listen to anyone.

All the best to you...

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A female reader, Read-the-signs United Kingdom +, writes (18 January 2012):

You will have to let him get on with it. He's an adult and he makes his own choices. You could point out that his reputation/integrity will be on the line if it becomes public knowledge, you could point out how disturbed you are by it, but ultimately he is in control of his own actions.

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