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My father died of AIDS and now I'm terrified of being in a relationship

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Question - (25 March 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 25 March 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Dear response, since losing my father back in 2006, to AIDS, I fear engaging myself into any relationship, and this has killed all my feelings deep within my soul, and I end up thinking that may be I may catch the disease which I so much dread, pleaaase advice me on how to go about it, as am about to give up completely into hopes of ever falling in love again, even though I feel I should, live my life.

question two:

My heart fell in love with one of the men i meant by fate, and since then I came to like this person, not because of anything much but simply for his kindness. However, with time even if i have reservations i came to naturally love him as time went by. But then with God's love, I meant the girl this man was dating out of luck, and got to know her for a short time. The character of this person was just embarrasing and questionable. However, thats not the problem, the problem came when the men she was dating a side, commented that the Girl in Question had AIDS. My question is plain simple, how do I get to move on with my life with out this fear within me and to let go off my past?

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A female reader, Ima FreAk!  United Kingdom +, writes (25 March 2011):

Ima FreAk!  agony auntHiyaaaa,

Just letting you know that I'm 17 so I might not be able to help you as much but I will do everything that I can! But if it's helps I take Biology AS ha ha!

Firstly you can't be sure that you will get AIDS. Your father had it so it wouldn't be inherited because you obviously wasn't breast-fed by your dad!

Secondly in terms of psychology you need to overcome the traumatic event that you've experienced. To do that you could think of how much you love the guy and you guys can engage in a healthy relationship. Just have regular checks up of AIDS and safe sex would be fine.

Honestly trust your heart, deep down the feeling of love is great it's in your heart all you have to do is open it for the world to see! The tingly feeling you get from being in love... trust me it's completely worth it!

Don't think to much and live day by day (try not to think of the future too much think of the present!)

Hope my advice helps!

So go get em gal! Fall in love!!

Good luck

Lots of love,

Ima FreAk!

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